Deborah Kat

Well, it is very much a form.

I mean, you know, it's very much a form of control to say, you know, this is what marriage looks like.

It's for procreation.

It's for the accumulation and consolidation of property.

And that's what it's about.

Versus marriage is about or relationship is about how can we

make each other, you know, how can life be better together, right?

Then it is a part.

Well, I think it's a both and, right?

I mean, if you can't get into the bedroom without fixing something outside the bedroom, then that's where you start.

If you are already in the bedroom and you can try a few things differently, then that's where you start.

One of the places that I invite people to start is, I'm not sure if you're aware of the erotic blueprints, right?

But the erotic blueprints is this idea that we have different styles of eroticism.

And so the first thing I'll invite people to do is assuming they're already in the bedroom and assuming they're already talking about sex is it's like, well, why don't you find out what your erotic blueprint is?

Because that could give you a lot of information.

oftentimes we have differing blueprints right and so it could look so the the the blueprints are energetic which you know is more of the the tantra type of thing sensual think uh you know think about the sensual the the senses

Sexual, it's like, you know, right for the genitals.

It's kink, which is sort of, you know, the places where they get excited or are the things that are naughty and taboo.

And then shapeshifter, which is kind of like moves through all of the different blueprints.

But if you have somebody who moves, and one of the things that I like about the blueprints is