Deborah Kat

if that for many women is the like that is the place where it's like the highest sensation is right mm-hmm right we actually stop losing we start losing sensation after you know after a lot of pounding happens and as you said like that's not necessarily what is most pleasurable to to the female body right and

You know what I mean?

Absolutely.

Yeah.

And, you know, so many, so many of us don't actually climax there.

and i would say that many women don't actually climax you know from penetrative experience you know many women are more clitoral or you know the the partnered experience is just too much for them and they actually need a little bit of of uh you know they might actually climax more often with self-pleasure than they do with partnered pleasure right

And, you know, knowing that about your partner and respecting that and celebrating that is so important.

It's just like there's a lot of guys that don't actually climax from from penetration or blowjobs.

Yeah.

So, I mean, it's a big part of really finding out what works for you and, you know, what works for your partner and blessing and celebrating that and really allowing it to not look like the movies.

I can't tell you how many times I hear in a session, wow, I had no idea that's the way you felt.

Or that's what you wanted.

Yeah.

And part of it is that, you know, the space hasn't been created.

Part of that is that, like, you know, I can ask questions and feel, you know, I can ask all sorts of questions now.

And that same question coming from a partner may not land the same way.

So whether you are seeing a coach or a counselor or a therapist, whether you are in a group setting or a personal setting, it's so helpful to have that

that external experience, right?

Because when we're in a two, you know, when we're in a twosome, you know, for one thing, we really don't know what happens in couples.

You know, that's the only people that really know are the people involved.