Dee Salmin

Yeah.

And that like, you know, it doesn't even have to be that gender dynamic.

But I think, like you said, the stats speak for themselves.

Like we have an epidemic of violence against women in this country.

And so much of it is learnt behaviour, right?

It's

cyclical it's intergenerational trauma yeah and I think that you know we're still seeing it to this day when we see the stats where one in three men in Australia between the ages of 18 to 44 have admitted to perpetuating some sort of physical emotional or sexual violence towards an intimate partner yeah and so that's why another thing that I talk about in the book is trust should be earned like that's why I feel so passionately that if you are a woman dating a man

we've been taught our whole entire lives, like, that's so, you know, that's your soulmate, like, that's so exciting, like, you should just jump in, like, feet first.

There's so much benefit of the doubt, yeah.

Yeah, it's just, like, the way that we talk to our friends about it, like, oh, my God, he sounds like the one, like, you know.

And I just think, like, when you look at those statistics...

No, that's not something you want to gamble with.

Like that's someone who needs to earn your trust and prove to you.

And I know that like, you know, violence and abuse is so complex, but I just think like statistically, like men need to earn women's trust.

And that's something that we should be thinking about.

And especially when we're using dating apps and just rocking up to some random guy's house or rocking up on a date.

I know.

And it's really interesting because, you know, there's advice in the book that I think we've been saying for years, right?

It's like...

let your friends help you decide, you know, let your friends matchmake.