Dee Salmin

grow up and find a husband and have kids and be a mother and be a wife.

And like you said with your mom, like this was kind of something that I grew up seeing around me with my own parents and with the women in my life.

And I think that like the odds are so stacked against you, right?

And it's not even just the divorce statistics.

I think when we actually unpack

the ways in which women are kind of set up for failure when it comes to inequality in marriage and relationships, like, you know, domestic and emotional and mental labour, like solely falls on majority women in heterosexual relationships.

And I think that it's really interesting that we're so obsessed with this idea of getting engaged and getting married and finding your soulmate.

And then, like, I kind of talk about it in the book, but I'm like, well, you know what's on the other side, right?

Like, we're so obsessed with this idea.

But, like, what for?

Because on the other side of that actually is a relationship that maybe isn't going to be as fulfilling as you once probably thought.

is everywhere.

And now we go on TikTok and it's like, women, if you want to get a guy, like I grew up being most, like I was single for most of my life and I grew up always wanting a partner because I thought that there was something wrong for not having one because all of my friends were in relationships and everyone I knew had boyfriends.

And it wasn't until I was 18 that I ended up in a relationship, but I was always reading these books and it was like the rules and how to get the guy.

And

textbook romance by Zoe Foster Blake and I was so obsessed with consuming this content right and the Matthew Hussey stuff like on YouTube and oh my god I was always obsessed I was like I always really wanted to like figure it out like I was like what am I doing wrong I had the Zoe Foster Blake love book yes in like early high school and I was like better get to the bottom of this yeah it's a great book but I remember at the time being like you haven't even been on a date like what are you so stressed

Exactly, exactly.

And I just, I consumed that content so much that like I fully internalized the idea that there was something wrong with me because I hadn't had a boyfriend yet.

And I think that a lot of those books and that content

There's not much about being single, right?