Dee Selman

Is it something that, yeah, like, can someone become better at PDA?

Well, we actually got a voice memo from Gia, who kind of did learn to embrace it.

Like if you're avoidant or is it because you are so stressed about how you're being perceived?

Yeah.

like how I am like I'm just like don't want to make anyone uncomfortable like is it does it come from a people-pleasing place and like should you change like if you are who you are should you not just meet someone who's similar to you and kind of like I've got friends where like they're both just not affectionate physical touchy they've been together for years and they love each other so much and they're like each other's person but they just I've never seen them kiss ever

Yeah, well, we had a few people weigh in.

Sam said when a couple is PDA, every time you see them, it's cringe and it actually is just attention seeking.

And we got this voice member from Kelly.

I feel like that is a very perfect example of,

of maybe the only way that PDA could be really defined as performative is when it's not consistent.

You're performing a version of your relationship on the outside that isn't reflected of the true nature of your relationship on the inside.

Well, it's like that research that came out that said that people who like really post about their relationship and really post their partner on social media aren't as happy in their relationship.

Well, yeah.

If it's like early days of the relationship.

It could just be performative in the fact that they're trying to like win you over.

A whole other element as well is like PDA like slowly dying over time.

Like that's like probably our experience as well is that like you might go quite heavy on the PDA at the start when you're in the honeymoon phase and then at some point maybe it kind of dwindles down.

Why don't you want to hump on the park bench anymore?

We should ask the UK.

Train yet.