Devale Ellis
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540 appearances
2 recordings
2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard Apr 2025
Devale Ellis’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I love y'all, too. Thank you so much. And congrats, baby. You sold out. Thank you. Watch that dinner, baby. Yes! Thank you guys so much. I love you guys. Thank you.
I love you ladies.
All right. We are to the end and my favorite part of the show. Are y'all ready for this? So I asked you all to write in to our positive outcomes listener letter so that you could come on stage with me. So please welcome Tahira Watson and Jamonna Turner. There you go. You guys are here. Thank you so much for coming. Seriously. And thank you for writing in. I love you guys for your support.
And I want to pour into you. So you have a question for me and I'll let you go first.
So you want advice on what you should do? All right, Tahira. I would say, and I've dealt with this, you know, even being where I am now, and I've always been the risk taker of the family, you know, and my family, I love them, but my parents played it very safe. They were always like, get an education, get a degree, and get a good job with a 401k. And start a family.
So when I was in college, I knew by 25, I'd be married, having kids. And that was what was laid out for me. But I had so much more that I wanted to do. And often my parents did not understand that. And if I had have listened, because at that point you're an adult, so it's not like we're telling children to not obey and listen to their parents.
When you get to an age where you can make your decisions on your own, I feel like you should take a stance and do what's best for you and let your family know that you love them and that you're always going to be for them because you can't choose your family. You're stuck with them for life. But there comes a time where you have to really ask yourself, what do I want? What does Tahira want?
and go for that because you never want to look back on your life and be like, what would it have been like if I had stepped out on faith? I never want to live my life with regret. And I want to tell you guys a story. This was President Obama's first campaign. I did everything my parents told me to do. I got an education, I got the great job on Capitol Hill, got a great job, 401K, all the things.
And President Obama's, well, at that point he was Senator Obama, his assistant came and said, hey, we got some paid jobs for the campaign, do you want to come do it? Me being the risk taker, I'm ready to quit this job and go work for this black man. I'm like, hell yeah! Sign me up! My parents were like, no. Like, why would you do that? He's not gonna win.
In my mind, because we're coming from a small town, remember where I'm from, we don't see that. I think a lot of black people was like, ain't no way, if we're honest with ourselves. They're like, why are you gonna quit this job and go do this? For them, it was more about loyalty, making sure that you stay with the people that gave you a shot.
Senator Lamar Alexander from our state gave me a shot, but I really wanted to go work on that campaign. Two years later, we had President Obama. And my parents at that moment said, we will never tell you what not to do because you could be working in the White House right now.
So I say to you, Tahira, go for what you want, love your family, respect your family, but don't live your life with regrets, okay? All right, you're welcome. Is it Jemana or Jemana? Jemana. Jemana. What is your question for me?
Well, I am your big sister. And what I would tell you, I made the mistake of not doing what God told us to do. You know, and I'm finally coming to an understanding of why God puts certain principles in place. And that's to protect us. You know, you think about it.
When you're dating someone out of wedlock and you're having sex, and the first thing you think about is when they cheat on you is like, you could have brought me a disease bag. That's the first thing you think. Like, you put my life in jeopardy. But if you wasn't having sex, you wouldn't have to worry about that. Okay? You know what I'm saying?
But I think about like that, you think about that, getting pregnant before you're ready. You think about the different stipulations. And even when you think about relationships and you have sex, I don't know if you guys can attest to this, but I'm the only one in the room. But as soon as you give yourself away, things change. It's like the scales fall from your eyes.
You're like, ooh, he ain't even as cute as I thought he was. You're like, ooh. You know, it's like all these things come up and it's like the whole honeymoon phase is over. But if we do things the way God intended, I feel like there is something beautiful on the other side of that. So I would tell you to stand firm on what you believe. Listen, the right man will come along.
I know when I read the letter, you said that even Christian men, quote unquote Christian men, they be the, honey, them ones in the church be something else, honey. Listen, they have something else. So you have to stand firm on that. And the Bible also says, instead of doing those things, it's also okay to be
single that's the honestly it says that so a lot of times you have to wait until the right man finds you and you're 31 you're not in a rush you still have your whole life ahead of you I would focus on your career your passions and things that make you happy and save yourself for the right one because I'm telling you if you don't you're gonna be picking yourself up off the floor crying heartbroken and it's just not worth it y'all it's really not so that's what I would say you to do
I appreciate y'all. We belong together. And you know that I'm right. Am I singing the right song? Although we come to the end.
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