Dr. Alex Curmi
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first heard May 2026
last heard 13 Aug
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is this phenomenon encouraging dependency on women, dependency on men, in a way that, as you point out, is quite regressive.
I like to use movies and TV shows to illustrate psychological things, and I guess the best example for this would be something like Betty Draper and Mad Men.
Have you watched Mad Men?
How could you?
Watch Mad Men.
It's really good.
So Mad Men obviously is about a family in the 1950s.
And what you see is something which you commonly hear talked about back then is housewives by themselves raising kids often in the suburbs where they didn't have access to a close community were incredibly lonely, incredibly dissatisfied with their lives and totally financially dependent on their husbands.
Funnily enough, we think, you know, rationally, we might think human beings are going to resist that, that we have a drive towards autonomy.
And I think human beings largely do have a drive towards autonomy.
But I do think when the world gets too much, both for men and for women, and again, you do see this politically, we have an unconscious desire to give up control.
I think this is the psychology behind authoritarian strongmen.
Specific names don't need to be mentioned here.
But you'd be surprised how much, especially in groups and under the sway of a group mentality, an individual can give up their autonomy because, God, the world just feels like too much.
And again, there's too many choices and I give up the burden of my autonomy in favor of being dependent on someone else who's going to handle all of that.
And I would worry, especially for younger women, that it's encouraging that kind of dependency and that voluntarily giving up of autonomy in a kind of in a way that
in a weird mirror image of the way incels give up their autonomy.
So incels give up their autonomy by saying, it's not my choice that I don't get to have sexual relationships.
It's because women are too aspirational.
Just putting it charitably.
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