Dr. Alex George

And I didn't mean to be, but I felt like someone was attacking me.

And maybe they were actually just trying to take the mick out of me.

I don't know.

But I perceived I should have just brushed it off and thought, oh, well, whatever, you know, if they are being mean, then whatever.

Or maybe they're joking.

But instead, I took it very, very deeply.

And, you know, I think sometimes that creates conflict or upset that could otherwise be avoided.

Like, I'd love to be someone that could brush things off.

I really do.

I really would love that.

It would be a lot easier.

I mean, have you found, I mean, of all the kind of conversations you've had here, obviously you came on my podcast, the Stompcast, we've talked about rejection sensitivity.

Do you think you've got any better at dealing with it?

After all the conversations you've had, all the learning you've done, are you any better at dealing with rejection?

I honestly, I'm not sure that I've heard of a technique that is truly curative of it.

I'm not sure if someone's come and given a piece of advice that I think fully cures it.

The only thing I think that works to an extent, and I agree it doesn't stop it happening, is just creating space between your awareness and reaction.

So you're aware that, oh my gosh, I'm triggered, I'm feeling rejected here.

Right, shut up, basically.

don't say anything then allow this to pass you know the thing that i found i think helpful is trying i'm not sure i'm always good at this but try and use like a 24-hour rule so think right if i still feel strongly about this in 24 hours then i'm going to discuss it with this person but until then i'm going to try and park it and sit with the feeling and but it's very difficult to do the sense of rejection you feel i think is incredibly crippling i mean as i said to you before