Dr. Alok Kanojia

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I think you already shared one about just take the prize off the table, like have a conversation that is separate from consequences.

I think one thing that we strongly, strongly recommend is for parents to be super careful

About how they set limits.

So anytime you are angry and you set a limit, that is a limit that you are not going to be able to enforce consistently over time.

So like be super careful about your own emotions.

It's amazing how many of the parents that we work with, they're like, hey, can you fix our kid?

And we're like, no, we need to fix you.

And they're like, I'm not the one with the problem.

That's when we say we beg to differ.

So we tend to find is that parents prioritizing their own emotional tranquility and calmness is incredibly important.

So oftentimes what parents will do is they're afraid that my child is ruining their life, but you don't want to scare your kid.

So parents will ask all these questions that are not real questions.

Don't you think that this is a problem?

Isn't it a problem?

Are you sure it's not a problem?

And so what happens is on the surface, a parent is being very, very like kind and open and hey, let me like ask for your opinion.

But deep down emotionally, there's a disconnect and the kids detect that.

And once the child detects a difference between the way you're acting and the way that you feel, their guard goes up.

So we really recommend is that parents really focus on their own emotional tranquility.

So if you're afraid about something, you know, really think through it a little bit yourself.

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