Dr. Alok Kanojia

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14,421 appearances 24 recordings 1 series first heard Jun 2026 last heard 4d ago

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HealthyGamerGG · What Breakups ACTUALLY Do To Men · 14 Sep 2026 podcast

And we really want to get to that equifinality point of resolved self-concept. voice-verified

We want to become a new person. voice-verified

OK, so now the question becomes, how do we do that? voice-verified

So this is where I think. voice-verified

the best strategy is something that's called an activating deactivating strategy which means we want to muster up the right amount of emotion that's an activating strategy so we can do things like have a conversation about closure oh my god we can do things like take a look at the pictures that we have and have the fond memories of that person that is an activating element so that will bring up some level of emotion voice-verified

And if you look at the process of grief, it's not like the antidote to grief is, oh, my God, my wife of 40 years has passed away. voice-verified

Let me burn all of her pictures. voice-verified

That's not how we grieve and it's not how we need to grieve. voice-verified

Instead, what we want to do is those will activate some degree of emotion, which is part of the healing process. voice-verified

So studies on trauma show that people who are able to experience intense emotion for a brief period of time are less likely to develop PTSD. voice-verified

People who go hard avoidance and numb themselves have a greater rate of developing PTSD. voice-verified

So we want to use activating strategies. voice-verified

Let that emotion come up. voice-verified

It doesn't just have to be through conversations or pictures or whatever. voice-verified

It can be through conversation. voice-verified

So we want to activate the emotion. voice-verified

It can also be through exercise. voice-verified

And then we want to use deactivating strategies. voice-verified

So if we're trickling into rumination, if we're starting to get super depressed about it, we want to use deactivating strategies, which include things like emotional avoidance. voice-verified

which include things like hanging out with your bros or going on a girls trip, which include things like camping, which include things like lifting. voice-verified

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