Dr. Becky Kennedy

It just all was a perfect storm. And so... What should I do? This actually goes back to our job. I think a lot of times we get into situations where we're punishing and, quote, disciplining, even though I don't think that's the right word, our kid. Because again, we're not really doing our job as parents, right? Where we're not setting a limit.

It just all was a perfect storm. And so... What should I do? This actually goes back to our job. I think a lot of times we get into situations where we're punishing and, quote, disciplining, even though I don't think that's the right word, our kid. Because again, we're not really doing our job as parents, right? Where we're not setting a limit.

Where maybe the intervention is, and again, this is where our intention matters. Because I'm going to say the same thing, but you'll hear it differently. Look, you're being ridiculous with that gun. I can't trust you, and so I'm taking it away. Intervention is taking it away. A kid is going to feel like a shitty kid.

Where maybe the intervention is, and again, this is where our intention matters. Because I'm going to say the same thing, but you'll hear it differently. Look, you're being ridiculous with that gun. I can't trust you, and so I'm taking it away. Intervention is taking it away. A kid is going to feel like a shitty kid.

Where maybe the intervention is, and again, this is where our intention matters. Because I'm going to say the same thing, but you'll hear it differently. Look, you're being ridiculous with that gun. I can't trust you, and so I'm taking it away. Intervention is taking it away. A kid is going to feel like a shitty kid.

And you're going to feel bad at the end of the night versus, look, the truth is it's really hard to have a Nerf gun and make responsible decisions, especially when other people are around. I'm taking the Nerf gun, but it's not because you're a bad kid. You're a good kid who had a hard time. My job as a parent, my number one job is to keep you safe. And I actually love you so much.

And you're going to feel bad at the end of the night versus, look, the truth is it's really hard to have a Nerf gun and make responsible decisions, especially when other people are around. I'm taking the Nerf gun, but it's not because you're a bad kid. You're a good kid who had a hard time. My job as a parent, my number one job is to keep you safe. And I actually love you so much.

And you're going to feel bad at the end of the night versus, look, the truth is it's really hard to have a Nerf gun and make responsible decisions, especially when other people are around. I'm taking the Nerf gun, but it's not because you're a bad kid. You're a good kid who had a hard time. My job as a parent, my number one job is to keep you safe. And I actually love you so much.

I'm willing to make decisions to keep you safe, even if you protest and get mad at me. And this is one of those decisions. The Nerf gun is going away. Maybe there's a time in a week or two where I'll take it out, where it's just you and I. There's no one around. We'll play with it safely. And as we do that a few times, you'll show me you're increasingly capable. But for now, it's going to be away.

I'm willing to make decisions to keep you safe, even if you protest and get mad at me. And this is one of those decisions. The Nerf gun is going away. Maybe there's a time in a week or two where I'll take it out, where it's just you and I. There's no one around. We'll play with it safely. And as we do that a few times, you'll show me you're increasingly capable. But for now, it's going to be away.

I'm willing to make decisions to keep you safe, even if you protest and get mad at me. And this is one of those decisions. The Nerf gun is going away. Maybe there's a time in a week or two where I'll take it out, where it's just you and I. There's no one around. We'll play with it safely. And as we do that a few times, you'll show me you're increasingly capable. But for now, it's going to be away.

Like we do that not to our kid. We do that for our kid because we actually want to protect them from doing things that make them act like a bad kid.

Like we do that not to our kid. We do that for our kid because we actually want to protect them from doing things that make them act like a bad kid.

Like we do that not to our kid. We do that for our kid because we actually want to protect them from doing things that make them act like a bad kid.

I think about someone, I don't know why, like someone who's trying not to drink alcohol. And like if someone's, hey, you really shouldn't drink alcohol when you're in a bar. Someone would just say, yeah, if you're early recovery, you probably shouldn't be in the bar.

I think about someone, I don't know why, like someone who's trying not to drink alcohol. And like if someone's, hey, you really shouldn't drink alcohol when you're in a bar. Someone would just say, yeah, if you're early recovery, you probably shouldn't be in the bar.

I think about someone, I don't know why, like someone who's trying not to drink alcohol. And like if someone's, hey, you really shouldn't drink alcohol when you're in a bar. Someone would just say, yeah, if you're early recovery, you probably shouldn't be in the bar.

Yeah, you don't go to the bar. It's hard to have that urge when you're trying to build skills. And it's actually our job to protect our kid. And that's actually going to help them make better decisions over time. Where probably a Nerf gun isn't the first situation where they're going to build impulse control. we would have a hard time having impulse control with a Nerf gun.

Yeah, you don't go to the bar. It's hard to have that urge when you're trying to build skills. And it's actually our job to protect our kid. And that's actually going to help them make better decisions over time. Where probably a Nerf gun isn't the first situation where they're going to build impulse control. we would have a hard time having impulse control with a Nerf gun.

Yeah, you don't go to the bar. It's hard to have that urge when you're trying to build skills. And it's actually our job to protect our kid. And that's actually going to help them make better decisions over time. Where probably a Nerf gun isn't the first situation where they're going to build impulse control. we would have a hard time having impulse control with a Nerf gun.