Dr. Becky Kennedy

called waiting.

I say this to my kids, I'm going to teach you how to wait.

It's a thing.

It is a thing.

I know it's very rare, but we're going to learn to wait.

So that's why we're taking the bus.

That's why we're taking the subway because my job as a parent is to help you become a truly successful adult, which means you know how to operate in the world and be a good person.

And if I don't make sure you have some amount of normal life experience, which involves frustration and not always getting what you want, I'm actually not really doing my job.

So a couple of things about that.

I think it goes back to what we started with about the importance as a parent of being able to gaze in.

Now, there are ways of being mean mom that I don't recommend.

Like if I see my kids, I don't know,

lunch on the table and they've forgotten it.

And I know they have some really long day.

Are there times I'm like, Hey, you forgot your lunch.

Yeah.

Like I don't have to purposefully hide their lunch like that.

And I think what it comes back to in terms of gazing in is knowing what is my intention.

I really believe kids, people in general, they feel your intention over your intervention.

So the same intervention can be felt very differently.