Dr. Becky Kennedy

It's a thing.

It is a thing.

I know it's very rare, but we're going to learn to wait.

So that's why we're taking the bus.

That's why we're taking the subway because my job as a parent is to help you become a truly successful adult, which means you know how to operate in the world and be a good person.

And if I don't make sure you have some amount of normal life experience, which involves frustration and not always getting what you want, I'm actually not really doing my job.

So a couple of things about that.

I think it goes back to what we started with about the importance as a parent of being able to gaze in.

Now, there are ways of being mean mom that I don't recommend.

Like if I see my kids, I don't know,

lunch on the table and they've forgotten it.

And I know they have some really long day.

Are there times I'm like, Hey, you forgot your lunch.

Yeah.

Like I don't have to purposefully hide their lunch like that.

And I think what it comes back to in terms of gazing in is knowing what is my intention.

I really believe kids, people in general, they feel your intention over your intervention.

So the same intervention can be felt very differently.

Sweetie, do you know why I'm not going to call your teacher?

It's actually because I think you're really capable of having the first conversation.