Dr. Becky Kennedy

Okay.

So one of my good friends, my co-founder, she says this about me.

She goes, Becky, you underestimate like how powerful your relationship is with your own calendar in like your mental health.

And it's something I've learned from you and women need to learn.

My calendar is everything.

Now that doesn't mean...

what people think it means.

If you think about a calendar and a mom's calendar, how many of them?

I mean, soccer practice, the carpool, the school plays, all things that matter.

But if a mom looks at her calendar right now, I want her to ask herself, what on my calendar is for me?

And she'll say, oh, well, I'm making cupcakes.

That's not for you.

By the way, great.

That's not for you.

What on your calendar is for me?

Well, if you don't put things on your calendar concretely for you,

you will go week after week, month after month, and you will become completely depleted.

And my metaphor for this is it's like the part of you inside who's not all about caregiving, which there should be other parts of you who like to see your friends, who like to move, who like to do anything that lights you up.

If that part of you doesn't get fed, then she's starving and she will scream out to you for her own survival.

So a very concrete first step, I would say, is you need to start somewhere.