Dr. Becky Kennedy

And the second thing, and this is, again, really I think what Good Insides stands for, the only thing that comes naturally in parenting is how you were parented. Which makes sense. Parenting is a language. Like if you were raised in English and you wanted to speak some Mandarin to your kids, you would never expect to just pick up Mandarin naturally.

And the second thing, and this is, again, really I think what Good Insides stands for, the only thing that comes naturally in parenting is how you were parented. Which makes sense. Parenting is a language. Like if you were raised in English and you wanted to speak some Mandarin to your kids, you would never expect to just pick up Mandarin naturally.

And the second thing, and this is, again, really I think what Good Insides stands for, the only thing that comes naturally in parenting is how you were parented. Which makes sense. Parenting is a language. Like if you were raised in English and you wanted to speak some Mandarin to your kids, you would never expect to just pick up Mandarin naturally.

Right? You would probably tell a friend. First of all, I think I would say to a friend, that's amazing that you want to speak a new language. That's so cool. You're taking that on. And did you download Duolingo? And the other thing about language that's really helpful to think about it that way is is what language do you think you'd speak to your kid when you're most stressed out and overwhelmed?

Right? You would probably tell a friend. First of all, I think I would say to a friend, that's amazing that you want to speak a new language. That's so cool. You're taking that on. And did you download Duolingo? And the other thing about language that's really helpful to think about it that way is is what language do you think you'd speak to your kid when you're most stressed out and overwhelmed?

Right? You would probably tell a friend. First of all, I think I would say to a friend, that's amazing that you want to speak a new language. That's so cool. You're taking that on. And did you download Duolingo? And the other thing about language that's really helpful to think about it that way is is what language do you think you'd speak to your kid when you're most stressed out and overwhelmed?

back to English. We all go back. And if that happened, I don't think you'd say, oh, all that Mandarin I've been practicing is just not worth anything. I'm back to square one. Okay, you go back to English and then you go back to your Mandarin lessons.

back to English. We all go back. And if that happened, I don't think you'd say, oh, all that Mandarin I've been practicing is just not worth anything. I'm back to square one. Okay, you go back to English and then you go back to your Mandarin lessons.

back to English. We all go back. And if that happened, I don't think you'd say, oh, all that Mandarin I've been practicing is just not worth anything. I'm back to square one. Okay, you go back to English and then you go back to your Mandarin lessons.

And the reason I think that's so useful is I think it counters what we've been told, that there's a maternal instinct for women that, quote, I should be able to figure this out on my own. This is, to me, good insight is essentially like a great version of parent school. Every other area in our life, a doctor, a lawyer. They get specialized education.

And the reason I think that's so useful is I think it counters what we've been told, that there's a maternal instinct for women that, quote, I should be able to figure this out on my own. This is, to me, good insight is essentially like a great version of parent school. Every other area in our life, a doctor, a lawyer. They get specialized education.

And the reason I think that's so useful is I think it counters what we've been told, that there's a maternal instinct for women that, quote, I should be able to figure this out on my own. This is, to me, good insight is essentially like a great version of parent school. Every other area in our life, a doctor, a lawyer. They get specialized education.

I believe parenting in a way that feels in line with your own values is a skill. Some moments come naturally, but a lot don't because in those moments you probably hear your own parent's voice and anything new feels awkward, not because it's wrong, because it's new.

I believe parenting in a way that feels in line with your own values is a skill. Some moments come naturally, but a lot don't because in those moments you probably hear your own parent's voice and anything new feels awkward, not because it's wrong, because it's new.

I believe parenting in a way that feels in line with your own values is a skill. Some moments come naturally, but a lot don't because in those moments you probably hear your own parent's voice and anything new feels awkward, not because it's wrong, because it's new.

I mean, without a doubt, I think that is the main thing. But I'll give you another one. Keeping our kids happy to make it even more extreme, what it does is it steals our kids' capability. We steal it. We make ourselves feel capable in the moment and we make our kids feel not capable because we deprive them of the experience of seeing that they can get through hard things and hard emotions.

I mean, without a doubt, I think that is the main thing. But I'll give you another one. Keeping our kids happy to make it even more extreme, what it does is it steals our kids' capability. We steal it. We make ourselves feel capable in the moment and we make our kids feel not capable because we deprive them of the experience of seeing that they can get through hard things and hard emotions.

I mean, without a doubt, I think that is the main thing. But I'll give you another one. Keeping our kids happy to make it even more extreme, what it does is it steals our kids' capability. We steal it. We make ourselves feel capable in the moment and we make our kids feel not capable because we deprive them of the experience of seeing that they can get through hard things and hard emotions.

So I think that is the biggest thing. I think another version of that is this thing I keep hearing. Am I not supposed to say no to my...

So I think that is the biggest thing. I think another version of that is this thing I keep hearing. Am I not supposed to say no to my...