Dr. Becky Kennedy

It's only after mess that you're like, wow, I guess I'm capable of more than I thought. That's what self-esteem is. And then they take that in to the math class later and they're willing to take on the bonus problem.

They're willing to put their hand up and get something wrong because they know not from knowledge of someone telling them, from experience, that they can get through those things and bounce back.

They're willing to put their hand up and get something wrong because they know not from knowledge of someone telling them, from experience, that they can get through those things and bounce back.

They're willing to put their hand up and get something wrong because they know not from knowledge of someone telling them, from experience, that they can get through those things and bounce back.

Yeah. And look, and again, our intention matters because a different version of that is this is a puzzle. Do it or don't do it. But by the way, you're just giving up and you could definitely do this puzzle. I picture Pam being like, but I'm doing the thing Dr. Becky said. The reason I even said that is because, first of all, I don't know if you could do the puzzle. Who knows? It was kind of hard.

Yeah. And look, and again, our intention matters because a different version of that is this is a puzzle. Do it or don't do it. But by the way, you're just giving up and you could definitely do this puzzle. I picture Pam being like, but I'm doing the thing Dr. Becky said. The reason I even said that is because, first of all, I don't know if you could do the puzzle. Who knows? It was kind of hard.

Yeah. And look, and again, our intention matters because a different version of that is this is a puzzle. Do it or don't do it. But by the way, you're just giving up and you could definitely do this puzzle. I picture Pam being like, but I'm doing the thing Dr. Becky said. The reason I even said that is because, first of all, I don't know if you could do the puzzle. Who knows? It was kind of hard.

When our kids are younger, essentially. We're forming their talk tracks. We might as well do that in a way that works to their advantage. We have this opportunity to build identity that a kid thinks they're capable and nobody feels capable from early success.

When our kids are younger, essentially. We're forming their talk tracks. We might as well do that in a way that works to their advantage. We have this opportunity to build identity that a kid thinks they're capable and nobody feels capable from early success.

When our kids are younger, essentially. We're forming their talk tracks. We might as well do that in a way that works to their advantage. We have this opportunity to build identity that a kid thinks they're capable and nobody feels capable from early success.

You actually feel fragile because you feel so attached that your identity is linked with early success that you can do a very, very narrow range of things. This is the best news for a parent. They're like, wait a second. So my kid not doing the puzzle is a good thing? Yes, your kid not being in class with their best friends. Yes, you're not doing a bad parenting job by being there to support.

You actually feel fragile because you feel so attached that your identity is linked with early success that you can do a very, very narrow range of things. This is the best news for a parent. They're like, wait a second. So my kid not doing the puzzle is a good thing? Yes, your kid not being in class with their best friends. Yes, you're not doing a bad parenting job by being there to support.

You actually feel fragile because you feel so attached that your identity is linked with early success that you can do a very, very narrow range of things. This is the best news for a parent. They're like, wait a second. So my kid not doing the puzzle is a good thing? Yes, your kid not being in class with their best friends. Yes, you're not doing a bad parenting job by being there to support.

You're actually allowing your kid to access over time their capability. It's just a lot messier than what we think that will look like.

You're actually allowing your kid to access over time their capability. It's just a lot messier than what we think that will look like.

You're actually allowing your kid to access over time their capability. It's just a lot messier than what we think that will look like.

You know what's interesting? Zero.

You know what's interesting? Zero.

You know what's interesting? Zero.

Because I don't think anybody who's heard me talk ever says, Dr. Becky, she sounds really soft. I don't know if you feel like that in this conversation.