Dr. Becky Kennedy

Or if I'm acting in alignment with my values, am I doing that thing where I'm taking someone else's feeling?

Like if I have multiple burners, right, of my stove, my burner of work is really high.

My burner of family connection or presence is lower than I want it to be.

That's what you're kind of saying.

Yeah.

So number one, I would say to anyone, how any given week goes is information and doesn't define who you are.

This is another core thing that we talk about at Good Inside, separating behavior from identity.

We also struggle with this.

I'm a horrible mom.

I'm never with my kids.

Maybe I just had a work trip for a week.

Now, maybe that does give me good information.

And if that's me in your shoes and I'm feeling like a little disconnected, I might look at my calendar.

Again, I live by my calendar and say, okay, let me look at the next couple of weeks.

Okay, you know what?

I was invited to this dinner.

I'm actually not going to go because I know I'm going to cancel it even now that I'm realizing it.

I'm just going to RSVP no.

And you know what?

I'm going to move that meeting a little bit later because I know I want to drop off my kid one day.