Dr. Becky Kennedy

And so now I'm going to use the information of the guilt, not to tell myself I'm a story that I'm a horrible parent that actually just keeps me frozen, but it's actually good information to make different decisions going forward.

And you can't measure yourself by a single day or a single week.

We really lose the bigger picture of what it means to be in a relationship with anyone if the truth feels like a day versus, and you're talking about a series of trade-offs, but I also think you're really talking about a much longer time horizon.

Not judging yourself by each zoomed in moment.

Right.

And that is a really, really important thing.

And the other thing I'll say that I think is so important, especially for working moms, is make space for your kids to be upset.

Again, as soon as you become kind of less scared of that, you're gone for a week.

As soon as you can say, I know it's a long time.

Yeah.

And you're going to, but this week you're missing my, I know.

And look,

Next month, just so you know, I'm going to be there for this play.

And I get that you're upset about it.

I get it.

You and I are going to get through it.

You're allowed to feel that way, right?

That is such an important piece of it too.

Because for so many kids, it's not just...

a difficult moment or not having a parent there that actually bothers them.