Dr. Becky Kennedy

Now, I'm not trying to put that out there like everyone should do that.

That's what I know.

Yeah, but that's your rule.

That's how you feel good.

And so what's interesting is someone says like some awesome work event on a Wednesday night and I'll look at my Wednesday night and my calendar will say it's free.

But I don't do that before I say yes.

I look at my week.

I see, oh, I'm out on Tuesday night.

And so I'll say, oh, I'm not able to make it.

Technically, and this is again, the difference between gazing out and gazing in, my calendar tells me I'm free.

But my calendar isn't the boss of me.

I'm the boss of me.

And I know that if I do that,

I'll feel awful.

I don't want to do that.

I'll be exhausted.

My kids' behavior will get worse because I just know like it's only one night that feels like right for the balance.

Because again, it goes back to this idea of saying no to others, right?

It's so powerful to just twist that and saying, if I have trouble saying no to others, that's not my problem.

My trouble is saying yes to myself.