Dr. Becky Kennedy

And I just want to say, too, because I think it's important that if she said, don't worry, I got all my tips on Instagram. I'd say, OK. I mean, you might want to do a little more in depth than that. I think you deserve a little better than that. And yet this is what parents are set up for.

When I've asked parents the number one reason why they don't get the support they even think they need, the number one reason I get, the number one reason I hear is I should be able to do this on my own.

When I've asked parents the number one reason why they don't get the support they even think they need, the number one reason I get, the number one reason I hear is I should be able to do this on my own.

Yeah. And there's a shame. And I think there's a really strong societal message as a woman. I can say the maternal instinct is like a real thing that people think we should have, which really is a way of saying parenting has kind of traditionally been a woman's job. I think they're shifting around that. It's great.

Yeah. And there's a shame. And I think there's a really strong societal message as a woman. I can say the maternal instinct is like a real thing that people think we should have, which really is a way of saying parenting has kind of traditionally been a woman's job. I think they're shifting around that. It's great.

And it should just be something women have an instinct to do, which is a really great setup for any parent when they're struggling to say, I guess it's me. And I think when we're struggling, I mean, I think when we're struggling with anything, we have two paths. And this is where I think we'll be talking about parenting, but you don't have kids. I'm sure some of your listeners don't have kids.

And it should just be something women have an instinct to do, which is a really great setup for any parent when they're struggling to say, I guess it's me. And I think when we're struggling, I mean, I think when we're struggling with anything, we have two paths. And this is where I think we'll be talking about parenting, but you don't have kids. I'm sure some of your listeners don't have kids.

This is in some ways about kids, in some ways 0% about kids and parenting. Like when we're struggling, we can either say, what is wrong with me and it's my fault? Or when we're struggling, we can say, what resources and support do I need? And they're two completely different paths. One is activating and has hope and has the likelihood of change.

This is in some ways about kids, in some ways 0% about kids and parenting. Like when we're struggling, we can either say, what is wrong with me and it's my fault? Or when we're struggling, we can say, what resources and support do I need? And they're two completely different paths. One is activating and has hope and has the likelihood of change.

And one is actually spiraling into an abyss and a freeze state. of shame, which makes it impossible to change. And I think parents have typically said to themselves, what's wrong with me? This should be easier. You kind of also see on Instagram, it looks like everyone else got their kid to smile for a holiday card. And you're like, that's not what happened to my kids.

And one is actually spiraling into an abyss and a freeze state. of shame, which makes it impossible to change. And I think parents have typically said to themselves, what's wrong with me? This should be easier. You kind of also see on Instagram, it looks like everyone else got their kid to smile for a holiday card. And you're like, that's not what happened to my kids.

And you feel like it's your fault. And then you don't talk about it. And then you fake good. And then the next person's like, well, that person seems to be having a hard time. And Then then honestly, we feel small. You know, we don't get those resources. We don't feel empowered. And kind of happens generation after generation until until it's not supposed to be depressing. This is so hopeful.

And you feel like it's your fault. And then you don't talk about it. And then you fake good. And then the next person's like, well, that person seems to be having a hard time. And Then then honestly, we feel small. You know, we don't get those resources. We don't feel empowered. And kind of happens generation after generation until until it's not supposed to be depressing. This is so hopeful.

You know what we see a good inside and we we hear all the time from our members is I came here for my kid. Like, yeah. That is not why I'm here now. Like I now ask for a raise. I now can stand up to my partner when they're mad at me. I now know that it's okay for me to go away for a weekend with my college friends, even when my partner and my kids are upset. Like that's their feelings.

You know what we see a good inside and we we hear all the time from our members is I came here for my kid. Like, yeah. That is not why I'm here now. Like I now ask for a raise. I now can stand up to my partner when they're mad at me. I now know that it's okay for me to go away for a weekend with my college friends, even when my partner and my kids are upset. Like that's their feelings.

Like I can have empathy and I can still do the things I need to do for myself. And in that way, I feel like what we're talking about is a lot of stuff you talk about is actually just, I call it sturdy leadership. And what's interesting to me is I feel like we have a lot of models for sturdy leadership in the workplace. Like, there's a lot of thoughts now.

Like I can have empathy and I can still do the things I need to do for myself. And in that way, I feel like what we're talking about is a lot of stuff you talk about is actually just, I call it sturdy leadership. And what's interesting to me is I feel like we have a lot of models for sturdy leadership in the workplace. Like, there's a lot of thoughts now.

Like, you can't really just yell at people and expect them to get better at work. And I even think that's, like, been modernized on the sports field. Like, the best coaches, like, kind of know you got to connect before you correct. And what's kind of amazing and sad, and yet we're there, I think, hopefully now, is, like, parenting young kids is kind of the last place

Like, you can't really just yell at people and expect them to get better at work. And I even think that's, like, been modernized on the sports field. Like, the best coaches, like, kind of know you got to connect before you correct. And what's kind of amazing and sad, and yet we're there, I think, hopefully now, is, like, parenting young kids is kind of the last place

to modernize where sturdy leadership kind of gets applied and what it really looks like and how it benefits everyone. But that's really what good insight is.