Dr. Becky Kennedy

Yeah, we have this kind of obsession with punishments and threats. I think it's because it's how we were parented.

Yeah, we have this kind of obsession with punishments and threats. I think it's because it's how we were parented.

Yeah, we have this kind of obsession with punishments and threats. I think it's because it's how we were parented.

But I thank you for being honest because I think me too. I've said those things. Here's how it usually looks in my house if I'm not setting a boundary. I'm like, hey, if you don't get off the couch, I'm taking away your dessert tonight. And then my kid probably doesn't get off the couch. And then it's whatever time at night. And then I think most of us, okay, this is what I do.

But I thank you for being honest because I think me too. I've said those things. Here's how it usually looks in my house if I'm not setting a boundary. I'm like, hey, if you don't get off the couch, I'm taking away your dessert tonight. And then my kid probably doesn't get off the couch. And then it's whatever time at night. And then I think most of us, okay, this is what I do.

But I thank you for being honest because I think me too. I've said those things. Here's how it usually looks in my house if I'm not setting a boundary. I'm like, hey, if you don't get off the couch, I'm taking away your dessert tonight. And then my kid probably doesn't get off the couch. And then it's whatever time at night. And then I think most of us, okay, this is what I do.

I'll be like, sorbet isn't dessert. Like berries and whipped cream isn't really dessert. Like I make something up because I don't actually want to deal with another meltdown. And then we totally undermine our authority. We're just like making stuff up. So we just feel desperate, I think, when we say those things.

I'll be like, sorbet isn't dessert. Like berries and whipped cream isn't really dessert. Like I make something up because I don't actually want to deal with another meltdown. And then we totally undermine our authority. We're just like making stuff up. So we just feel desperate, I think, when we say those things.

I'll be like, sorbet isn't dessert. Like berries and whipped cream isn't really dessert. Like I make something up because I don't actually want to deal with another meltdown. And then we totally undermine our authority. We're just like making stuff up. So we just feel desperate, I think, when we say those things.

Well, and if we, again, if we think about, because I really do think what we give parents is leadership training, which is, again, just something, why wouldn't we need leadership training? This is a harder leadership job than any CEO position. It is. CEOs like to say sometimes, like, it feels like I'm dealing with toddlers. No, no. In your home, you are literally dealing with toddlers.

Well, and if we, again, if we think about, because I really do think what we give parents is leadership training, which is, again, just something, why wouldn't we need leadership training? This is a harder leadership job than any CEO position. It is. CEOs like to say sometimes, like, it feels like I'm dealing with toddlers. No, no. In your home, you are literally dealing with toddlers.

Well, and if we, again, if we think about, because I really do think what we give parents is leadership training, which is, again, just something, why wouldn't we need leadership training? This is a harder leadership job than any CEO position. It is. CEOs like to say sometimes, like, it feels like I'm dealing with toddlers. No, no. In your home, you are literally dealing with toddlers.

So again, I just picture a CEO for someone who's late to work a couple of days in a row saying, if you don't come in time tomorrow, I'm taking away your ability to expense lunch. I'm sorry, if I heard that, I'd be like, that's the best you've got. That just doesn't feel like what excellent CEOs say. You know what? Hey, let's meet. Look, I'm on your team.

So again, I just picture a CEO for someone who's late to work a couple of days in a row saying, if you don't come in time tomorrow, I'm taking away your ability to expense lunch. I'm sorry, if I heard that, I'd be like, that's the best you've got. That just doesn't feel like what excellent CEOs say. You know what? Hey, let's meet. Look, I'm on your team.

So again, I just picture a CEO for someone who's late to work a couple of days in a row saying, if you don't come in time tomorrow, I'm taking away your ability to expense lunch. I'm sorry, if I heard that, I'd be like, that's the best you've got. That just doesn't feel like what excellent CEOs say. You know what? Hey, let's meet. Look, I'm on your team.

Something's getting in the way of you being on time. I know you don't need me to lecture you about that. Let's get to the bottom of this. Let's work together because getting to work on time is really important. And we both know that. Like you're working with someone, you're being on their team. And if a CEO said that, I don't know anyone who'd say that CEO is really permissive.

Something's getting in the way of you being on time. I know you don't need me to lecture you about that. Let's get to the bottom of this. Let's work together because getting to work on time is really important. And we both know that. Like you're working with someone, you're being on their team. And if a CEO said that, I don't know anyone who'd say that CEO is really permissive.

Something's getting in the way of you being on time. I know you don't need me to lecture you about that. Let's get to the bottom of this. Let's work together because getting to work on time is really important. And we both know that. Like you're working with someone, you're being on their team. And if a CEO said that, I don't know anyone who'd say that CEO is really permissive.

They'd be like, that CEO is effective. And punishments and threats, I actually think we know they don't really work in the workplace or on the sports field anymore. It's just the last place to modernize is parenting.

They'd be like, that CEO is effective. And punishments and threats, I actually think we know they don't really work in the workplace or on the sports field anymore. It's just the last place to modernize is parenting.