Dr. Becky Kennedy

I really appreciate you.

You're such a sturdy leader.

Thank you for looking out for my health.

No, you know what he does?

Or she whines, complains, you're the worst mom ever.

My friends all watch more TV.

And if I don't take that personally, if I can just see, hold on, this is actually leadership beautifully done.

I make a decision I think matters.

My kid gets upset.

I can understand their feelings without changing my decision.

To me, that's sturdy leadership in any area of life.

So I think there's a couple of things that happen at the same time culturally.

So we talk a lot about phones and media and social media and what that's been like for kids.

And even when they're younger, maybe it's not social media, but just all their time on screens, right?

And I think what we haven't talked enough about

is how our relationship with our phones has completely changed our ability to tolerate our kids' upset feelings.

Because if I think about your mom, Emma, you're having a tantrum.

You're upset because you couldn't have a sleepover.

If I think about what's happening, you know, if that was me or you,

My mom, when I was growing up, definitely did not have all the conveniences, the quick dopamine, the quick hits that I have.