Dr. Becky Kennedy

And other people are more toward the end of the spectrum of I'm gazing out in my environment. I notice how everyone else feels. I might even to some degree feel responsible for making them feel better. Neither extreme is great. The balance of both is actually helpful. So often in families, these two things can be extreme in both kids where I'd say, we want to help your daughter at times.

And other people are more toward the end of the spectrum of I'm gazing out in my environment. I notice how everyone else feels. I might even to some degree feel responsible for making them feel better. Neither extreme is great. The balance of both is actually helpful. So often in families, these two things can be extreme in both kids where I'd say, we want to help your daughter at times.

Notice, hey, it's not your job to give someone else's strawberry all the time. Other people are allowed to be upset. You can support them or you can do your own thing and find your own Legos. And we want to help your son in that situation sometimes come out of his like Lego world and notice that there's other kids or there's other things going on. There's something in between both.

Notice, hey, it's not your job to give someone else's strawberry all the time. Other people are allowed to be upset. You can support them or you can do your own thing and find your own Legos. And we want to help your son in that situation sometimes come out of his like Lego world and notice that there's other kids or there's other things going on. There's something in between both.

Notice, hey, it's not your job to give someone else's strawberry all the time. Other people are allowed to be upset. You can support them or you can do your own thing and find your own Legos. And we want to help your son in that situation sometimes come out of his like Lego world and notice that there's other kids or there's other things going on. There's something in between both.

And I think, again, this is another one of those false binaries. And I actually think both sides are also very incomplete because this idea that I don't really say no to my kids. I just want to keep my kids happy. I can just tell you for me, I wouldn't define that as like love.

And I think, again, this is another one of those false binaries. And I actually think both sides are also very incomplete because this idea that I don't really say no to my kids. I just want to keep my kids happy. I can just tell you for me, I wouldn't define that as like love.

And I think, again, this is another one of those false binaries. And I actually think both sides are also very incomplete because this idea that I don't really say no to my kids. I just want to keep my kids happy. I can just tell you for me, I wouldn't define that as like love.

Well, to me, the things we really want to work on with our kids are practice. They're not like a moment, is this tendency to want to keep our kids happy. And I have this belief that optimizing for happiness in childhood is actually what causes a ton of fragility and anxiety.

Well, to me, the things we really want to work on with our kids are practice. They're not like a moment, is this tendency to want to keep our kids happy. And I have this belief that optimizing for happiness in childhood is actually what causes a ton of fragility and anxiety.

Well, to me, the things we really want to work on with our kids are practice. They're not like a moment, is this tendency to want to keep our kids happy. And I have this belief that optimizing for happiness in childhood is actually what causes a ton of fragility and anxiety.

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resilience a lot of us want for our kids as they get older we want them to be really resilient and i think the reality of life is you never get rid of the whole range of feelings i don't know one adult who doesn't feel disappointment who doesn't feel jealous doesn't feel anger who at times doesn't feel less than other people now the situation is different most adults know how to read so the situation isn't i'm the only one in my class who doesn't know how to read

resilience a lot of us want for our kids as they get older we want them to be really resilient and i think the reality of life is you never get rid of the whole range of feelings i don't know one adult who doesn't feel disappointment who doesn't feel jealous doesn't feel anger who at times doesn't feel less than other people now the situation is different most adults know how to read so the situation isn't i'm the only one in my class who doesn't know how to read

resilience a lot of us want for our kids as they get older we want them to be really resilient and i think the reality of life is you never get rid of the whole range of feelings i don't know one adult who doesn't feel disappointment who doesn't feel jealous doesn't feel anger who at times doesn't feel less than other people now the situation is different most adults know how to read so the situation isn't i'm the only one in my class who doesn't know how to read

The situation is changed, but the feelings are exactly the same. And so what kids learn in childhood, when their body is essentially forming their factory settings, their defaults, what range of feelings should I expect to have throughout my life? And even more profound, what is the range of feelings where I feel capable as a human? And the more in childhood your parents...

The situation is changed, but the feelings are exactly the same. And so what kids learn in childhood, when their body is essentially forming their factory settings, their defaults, what range of feelings should I expect to have throughout my life? And even more profound, what is the range of feelings where I feel capable as a human? And the more in childhood your parents...

The situation is changed, but the feelings are exactly the same. And so what kids learn in childhood, when their body is essentially forming their factory settings, their defaults, what range of feelings should I expect to have throughout my life? And even more profound, what is the range of feelings where I feel capable as a human? And the more in childhood your parents...