Dr. Becky Kennedy

It was either avocado toast, which he loves, eggs, which he loves, or cereal and milk, okay? Like, it was, it's not my first rodeo. I'm not making something random and new right before they're getting on the bus. And it's so tempting in this moment. I want to be like, oh, you're going to eat breakfast. I made this. You like it. You're going to eat it. We just latch onto something.

It was either avocado toast, which he loves, eggs, which he loves, or cereal and milk, okay? Like, it was, it's not my first rodeo. I'm not making something random and new right before they're getting on the bus. And it's so tempting in this moment. I want to be like, oh, you're going to eat breakfast. I made this. You like it. You're going to eat it. We just latch onto something.

And then we know what happens. I mean, nobody wins. All of a sudden now we're like really fighting about all types of things. She gets on the bus. I feel like a horrible parent. My whole day is ruined. I hold resentment. I'm probably mean to her when she got off the bus. And then I go to bed, like just feeling shitty about myself. Like the whole day is ruined.

And then we know what happens. I mean, nobody wins. All of a sudden now we're like really fighting about all types of things. She gets on the bus. I feel like a horrible parent. My whole day is ruined. I hold resentment. I'm probably mean to her when she got off the bus. And then I go to bed, like just feeling shitty about myself. Like the whole day is ruined.

And then we know what happens. I mean, nobody wins. All of a sudden now we're like really fighting about all types of things. She gets on the bus. I feel like a horrible parent. My whole day is ruined. I hold resentment. I'm probably mean to her when she got off the bus. And then I go to bed, like just feeling shitty about myself. Like the whole day is ruined.

So I think in these situations, like I don't like that for breakfast. I'm not eating. Or even a situation where my kindle mom is like, I hate you. We almost have this urge to prove and do all of our parenting in like the next 30 seconds. I have to like do all of it. It's almost like I don't trust myself to figure it out. And then we hear someone around us.

So I think in these situations, like I don't like that for breakfast. I'm not eating. Or even a situation where my kindle mom is like, I hate you. We almost have this urge to prove and do all of our parenting in like the next 30 seconds. I have to like do all of it. It's almost like I don't trust myself to figure it out. And then we hear someone around us.

So I think in these situations, like I don't like that for breakfast. I'm not eating. Or even a situation where my kindle mom is like, I hate you. We almost have this urge to prove and do all of our parenting in like the next 30 seconds. I have to like do all of it. It's almost like I don't trust myself to figure it out. And then we hear someone around us.

We hear our parent or literally our parent watching us like, you're just going to do nothing?

We hear our parent or literally our parent watching us like, you're just going to do nothing?

We hear our parent or literally our parent watching us like, you're just going to do nothing?

Here's my perspective on this. Quote, doing nothing on the outside usually means you're doing a lot on the inside. You're regulating your own emotions as an adult versus doing something on the outside, which looks like, oh, you're going to eat breakfast or you can't talk to me like that. No dessert tonight. We're, quote, doing something on the outside, but we're doing nothing on the inside.

Here's my perspective on this. Quote, doing nothing on the outside usually means you're doing a lot on the inside. You're regulating your own emotions as an adult versus doing something on the outside, which looks like, oh, you're going to eat breakfast or you can't talk to me like that. No dessert tonight. We're, quote, doing something on the outside, but we're doing nothing on the inside.

Here's my perspective on this. Quote, doing nothing on the outside usually means you're doing a lot on the inside. You're regulating your own emotions as an adult versus doing something on the outside, which looks like, oh, you're going to eat breakfast or you can't talk to me like that. No dessert tonight. We're, quote, doing something on the outside, but we're doing nothing on the inside.

We're just taking our own frustration and we're like, I don't really want to deal with that myself, regulate that myself. No, it's going to vomit it onto my child. And it looks like something, but it's actually just stooping to their child level and, again, not being a parent.

We're just taking our own frustration and we're like, I don't really want to deal with that myself, regulate that myself. No, it's going to vomit it onto my child. And it looks like something, but it's actually just stooping to their child level and, again, not being a parent.

We're just taking our own frustration and we're like, I don't really want to deal with that myself, regulate that myself. No, it's going to vomit it onto my child. And it looks like something, but it's actually just stooping to their child level and, again, not being a parent.

Doing nothing, it's funny what I always tell parents, why I call it a strategy with a capital D and a capital N, because if someone ever says to you, you're just going to do nothing, I want you to think, no, I'm not just doing nothing. First of all, do nothing is a very difficult strategy to employ. And I am choosing do nothing. It is a choice I am making. It is mindful restraint.

Doing nothing, it's funny what I always tell parents, why I call it a strategy with a capital D and a capital N, because if someone ever says to you, you're just going to do nothing, I want you to think, no, I'm not just doing nothing. First of all, do nothing is a very difficult strategy to employ. And I am choosing do nothing. It is a choice I am making. It is mindful restraint.

Doing nothing, it's funny what I always tell parents, why I call it a strategy with a capital D and a capital N, because if someone ever says to you, you're just going to do nothing, I want you to think, no, I'm not just doing nothing. First of all, do nothing is a very difficult strategy to employ. And I am choosing do nothing. It is a choice I am making. It is mindful restraint.