Dr. Becky Kennedy

And I think, again, this is another one of those false binaries. And I actually think both sides are also very incomplete because this idea that I don't really say no to my kids. I just want to keep my kids happy. I can just tell you for me, I wouldn't define that as like love.

And I think, again, this is another one of those false binaries. And I actually think both sides are also very incomplete because this idea that I don't really say no to my kids. I just want to keep my kids happy. I can just tell you for me, I wouldn't define that as like love.

And I think, again, this is another one of those false binaries. And I actually think both sides are also very incomplete because this idea that I don't really say no to my kids. I just want to keep my kids happy. I can just tell you for me, I wouldn't define that as like love.

Well, to me, the things we really want to work on with our kids are practice. They're not like a moment, is this tendency to want to keep our kids happy. And I have this belief that optimizing for happiness in childhood is actually what causes a ton of fragility and anxiety.

Well, to me, the things we really want to work on with our kids are practice. They're not like a moment, is this tendency to want to keep our kids happy. And I have this belief that optimizing for happiness in childhood is actually what causes a ton of fragility and anxiety.

Well, to me, the things we really want to work on with our kids are practice. They're not like a moment, is this tendency to want to keep our kids happy. And I have this belief that optimizing for happiness in childhood is actually what causes a ton of fragility and anxiety.

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resilience a lot of us want for our kids as they get older we want them to be really resilient and i think the reality of life is you never get rid of the whole range of feelings i don't know one adult who doesn't feel disappointment who doesn't feel jealous doesn't feel anger who at times doesn't feel less than other people now the situation is different most adults know how to read so the situation isn't i'm the only one in my class who doesn't know how to read

resilience a lot of us want for our kids as they get older we want them to be really resilient and i think the reality of life is you never get rid of the whole range of feelings i don't know one adult who doesn't feel disappointment who doesn't feel jealous doesn't feel anger who at times doesn't feel less than other people now the situation is different most adults know how to read so the situation isn't i'm the only one in my class who doesn't know how to read

resilience a lot of us want for our kids as they get older we want them to be really resilient and i think the reality of life is you never get rid of the whole range of feelings i don't know one adult who doesn't feel disappointment who doesn't feel jealous doesn't feel anger who at times doesn't feel less than other people now the situation is different most adults know how to read so the situation isn't i'm the only one in my class who doesn't know how to read

The situation is changed, but the feelings are exactly the same. And so what kids learn in childhood, when their body is essentially forming their factory settings, their defaults, what range of feelings should I expect to have throughout my life? And even more profound, what is the range of feelings where I feel capable as a human? And the more in childhood your parents...

The situation is changed, but the feelings are exactly the same. And so what kids learn in childhood, when their body is essentially forming their factory settings, their defaults, what range of feelings should I expect to have throughout my life? And even more profound, what is the range of feelings where I feel capable as a human? And the more in childhood your parents...

The situation is changed, but the feelings are exactly the same. And so what kids learn in childhood, when their body is essentially forming their factory settings, their defaults, what range of feelings should I expect to have throughout my life? And even more profound, what is the range of feelings where I feel capable as a human? And the more in childhood your parents...

help you avoid hard feelings, fix things for you, step in too much, distract, give you a quick win. We think that makes a kid's life easier, but the message a kid takes from a parent is the feelings that overwhelm me also overwhelm my parent. Nobody in the world thinks I can feel capable when I'm frustrated.

help you avoid hard feelings, fix things for you, step in too much, distract, give you a quick win. We think that makes a kid's life easier, but the message a kid takes from a parent is the feelings that overwhelm me also overwhelm my parent. Nobody in the world thinks I can feel capable when I'm frustrated.

help you avoid hard feelings, fix things for you, step in too much, distract, give you a quick win. We think that makes a kid's life easier, but the message a kid takes from a parent is the feelings that overwhelm me also overwhelm my parent. Nobody in the world thinks I can feel capable when I'm frustrated.

Nobody in the world thinks that it's okay to be slow, kind of on the slower end of developing a skill. Fast forward to adulthood, there's basically one feeling that kid feels capable of having. Happiness. The range of feelings instead of wide like this, that a kid feels capable feeling, is like this. That's the essence of fragility.

Nobody in the world thinks that it's okay to be slow, kind of on the slower end of developing a skill. Fast forward to adulthood, there's basically one feeling that kid feels capable of having. Happiness. The range of feelings instead of wide like this, that a kid feels capable feeling, is like this. That's the essence of fragility.