Dr. Bethany Marshall

So that means every little bit of evidence that she is with a new husband is going to elevate

his anger and make him more dysregulated.

Maybe it's looking at a nightie, a piece of lingerie, a negligee, maybe sniffing her underwear, maybe looking at a diary, maybe seeing a beautiful candle, maybe seeing a vibrator by the bed.

Anything that speaks of sex, sex toys, anything like that

is going to reinforce his belief that she is cheating on him.

So what is he going to do?

He's going to call her and he's going to demonstrate that he has some power over her.

Perhaps he has read a line out of a diary.

Perhaps he's discovered something.

Perhaps there's something that he can use to humiliate her in some way and to reinforce that she is helpless.

He is coming for her.

And there is nothing she can do.

Every time she blocks his phone, he'll just pop up on another number.

Every time she reinforces those doors, he'll get back inside.

She tries to move to another state, he'll just buy the house next door.

This is the kind of guy he is.

So if you think of the fact that he entered the home with the fantasy that she still belongs to him, that he's going to get that idealized life with her, that idealized marriage, that he's going to get her back, not through love, not through sending flowers, but through having power over her and intimidating her.

You're right, Nancy.

Every time he sees maybe a beautiful dress that she may have worn out on a date,

maybe baby clothes that demonstrate that she has moved on.