Dr. Caroline Fleck

But if you divorce yourself from the narrative and you just feel it, it can.

But if you divorce yourself from the narrative and you just feel it, it can.

It just gets bigger. It just gets hungrier. It's like a child trying to get your attention, isn't it, right?

It just gets bigger. It just gets hungrier. It's like a child trying to get your attention, isn't it, right?

That's right. I think what you'll find, you know, if you struggle with being alone, I think that's a real tell for the degree to which you are facing and at peace with your emotions.

That's right. I think what you'll find, you know, if you struggle with being alone, I think that's a real tell for the degree to which you are facing and at peace with your emotions.

Because when there's no one else around and your phone is dead and you're the only person you're with, if that is painful and uncomfortable and you can kind of feel things trying to like crawl out, that suggests that you're not quite at peace with yourself.

Because when there's no one else around and your phone is dead and you're the only person you're with, if that is painful and uncomfortable and you can kind of feel things trying to like crawl out, that suggests that you're not quite at peace with yourself.

practice a lot of self-validation.

practice a lot of self-validation.

That, I mean, this is, I go through these steps almost every single night in bed. I go through these steps of like... What's this process look like?

That, I mean, this is, I go through these steps almost every single night in bed. I go through these steps of like... What's this process look like?

I had a breast cancer about a year ago, and I had to go through all of the nastiness, the chemo, the radiation, the mastectomy, the surgeries, all this. Wow. And it profoundly affected my daughter. And she felt like after I lost my hair, I was a different person. She's 11, but she has felt this really acutely. And I've had to really work on rebuilding that relationship. Wow.

I had a breast cancer about a year ago, and I had to go through all of the nastiness, the chemo, the radiation, the mastectomy, the surgeries, all this. Wow. And it profoundly affected my daughter. And she felt like after I lost my hair, I was a different person. She's 11, but she has felt this really acutely. And I've had to really work on rebuilding that relationship. Wow.

And so we're here in L.A. doing all this great stuff. And I had an article that I needed to get out by 9 a.m. this morning. And so she's wanting to watch Friends in the Hot Tub. Like, come on, what's better than that, right? Like, we're staying at this fun place. And I just didn't have time.

And so we're here in L.A. doing all this great stuff. And I had an article that I needed to get out by 9 a.m. this morning. And so she's wanting to watch Friends in the Hot Tub. Like, come on, what's better than that, right? Like, we're staying at this fun place. And I just didn't have time.

Like I was able, you know, we did a little bit of time in the hot tub, but she's like, can we watch it in your bed? And I'm like, I got to write this, you know, and I'm texting my husband. Can you like read to her tonight? And so I got in bed and I just felt so bad about myself. Like I felt so I had to sit there and be like, all right, what am I feeling? All right. This is this is shame.

Like I was able, you know, we did a little bit of time in the hot tub, but she's like, can we watch it in your bed? And I'm like, I got to write this, you know, and I'm texting my husband. Can you like read to her tonight? And so I got in bed and I just felt so bad about myself. Like I felt so I had to sit there and be like, all right, what am I feeling? All right. This is this is shame.

Okay. Now that I've, the first step is just to acknowledge it, give it an adjective.

Okay. Now that I've, the first step is just to acknowledge it, give it an adjective.