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Dr. Caroline Fleck

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
916 total appearances

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The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

to be heard or seen or that we're gonna like do some type of reinforce their behavior in some way by doing that like this bad behavior that we don't like that is where we um actually end up contributing to the cycle um yeah it also reminds me of the uh

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

to be heard or seen or that we're gonna like do some type of reinforce their behavior in some way by doing that like this bad behavior that we don't like that is where we um actually end up contributing to the cycle um yeah it also reminds me of the uh

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

to be heard or seen or that we're gonna like do some type of reinforce their behavior in some way by doing that like this bad behavior that we don't like that is where we um actually end up contributing to the cycle um yeah it also reminds me of the uh

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

I haven't seen it yet. I want to.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

I haven't seen it yet. I want to.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

I haven't seen it yet. I want to.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

And the Menendez brothers most recently. Oh, I saw that one. Yeah.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

And the Menendez brothers most recently. Oh, I saw that one. Yeah.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

And the Menendez brothers most recently. Oh, I saw that one. Yeah.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

Oh, no, but as someone who works directly with, you know, not those specific people, but folks who are, you know, have serious behavioral and emotional problems. No, I see exactly what you're saying. Like, I think they dramatize that backstory, but it is very much there and real. You asked about, you know, what are the effects of validation and or invalidation?

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

Oh, no, but as someone who works directly with, you know, not those specific people, but folks who are, you know, have serious behavioral and emotional problems. No, I see exactly what you're saying. Like, I think they dramatize that backstory, but it is very much there and real. You asked about, you know, what are the effects of validation and or invalidation?

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

Oh, no, but as someone who works directly with, you know, not those specific people, but folks who are, you know, have serious behavioral and emotional problems. No, I see exactly what you're saying. Like, I think they dramatize that backstory, but it is very much there and real. You asked about, you know, what are the effects of validation and or invalidation?

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

We as a society have really failed to reckon with, to acknowledge, to even label what invalidation is and how it affects people, okay? So invalidation is anything that basically dismisses, punishes, or denies another person's reality, be it their emotions, be it their thoughts, be it their behavior, okay?

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

We as a society have really failed to reckon with, to acknowledge, to even label what invalidation is and how it affects people, okay? So invalidation is anything that basically dismisses, punishes, or denies another person's reality, be it their emotions, be it their thoughts, be it their behavior, okay?

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

We as a society have really failed to reckon with, to acknowledge, to even label what invalidation is and how it affects people, okay? So invalidation is anything that basically dismisses, punishes, or denies another person's reality, be it their emotions, be it their thoughts, be it their behavior, okay?

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

Invalidation is directly linked to some of the most common and also severe forms of psychological disorders, all right, from BPD to major depression to PTSD to narcissism to even psychopathy, okay? So this is not like, does it play a role? No, we know it is a key ingredient. Yes, there are biological predispositions and everything else.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

Invalidation is directly linked to some of the most common and also severe forms of psychological disorders, all right, from BPD to major depression to PTSD to narcissism to even psychopathy, okay? So this is not like, does it play a role? No, we know it is a key ingredient. Yes, there are biological predispositions and everything else.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

Invalidation is directly linked to some of the most common and also severe forms of psychological disorders, all right, from BPD to major depression to PTSD to narcissism to even psychopathy, okay? So this is not like, does it play a role? No, we know it is a key ingredient. Yes, there are biological predispositions and everything else.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

But once you add invalidation into that mix, it's like a cowder peg explosion. Yeah, it's just boom. And we don't appreciate that, I think. And therefore, it's harder for us to validate people in those situations.

The Genius Life
487: Why Feeling "Seen and Heard" Can Save Your Relationship and Your Sanity | Caroline Fleck, PhD

But once you add invalidation into that mix, it's like a cowder peg explosion. Yeah, it's just boom. And we don't appreciate that, I think. And therefore, it's harder for us to validate people in those situations.