Dr. Caroline Fleck

There's always space for focusing on what you need to do differently, what you could behaviorally change. I don't think you can tough love your way out of your emotions. I think it is a huge mistake to think that you can just bully yourself out of feeling sad, anxious, down, depressed. It just doesn't work. We know that. It compounds negativity.

There's always space for focusing on what you need to do differently, what you could behaviorally change. I don't think you can tough love your way out of your emotions. I think it is a huge mistake to think that you can just bully yourself out of feeling sad, anxious, down, depressed. It just doesn't work. We know that. It compounds negativity.

So while I think there's a time and space to say, you know what? Yes, I'm depressed. But if I stay in my bed another day for 12 hours straight, I'm not going to feel better. I need to do something different. Yeah, I believe in that. I also believe in validating all of the reasons why you got to that place. All right.

So while I think there's a time and space to say, you know what? Yes, I'm depressed. But if I stay in my bed another day for 12 hours straight, I'm not going to feel better. I need to do something different. Yeah, I believe in that. I also believe in validating all of the reasons why you got to that place. All right.

So while I think there's a time and space to say, you know what? Yes, I'm depressed. But if I stay in my bed another day for 12 hours straight, I'm not going to feel better. I need to do something different. Yeah, I believe in that. I also believe in validating all of the reasons why you got to that place. All right.

And believe me, doing that first step, doing that emotional validation makes the change easier. It's just not something we've been taught to believe. We've been told kind of the opposite. Right. We've got to do this tough love, tough approach. And it's not an either or, it can be both and. It's acceptance and change. The two go hand in hand.

And believe me, doing that first step, doing that emotional validation makes the change easier. It's just not something we've been taught to believe. We've been told kind of the opposite. Right. We've got to do this tough love, tough approach. And it's not an either or, it can be both and. It's acceptance and change. The two go hand in hand.

And believe me, doing that first step, doing that emotional validation makes the change easier. It's just not something we've been taught to believe. We've been told kind of the opposite. Right. We've got to do this tough love, tough approach. And it's not an either or, it can be both and. It's acceptance and change. The two go hand in hand.

Well, now let me ask, does it need the lazy fuck part? Like you've done it all these years and that's the assumption. If you took the approach of, okay, you worked 12 hours straight, you haven't slept in three days, All right. You are exhausted. There's a valid reason you don't want to go to the gym. I get it. Okay. And it will 100% make you feel better.

Well, now let me ask, does it need the lazy fuck part? Like you've done it all these years and that's the assumption. If you took the approach of, okay, you worked 12 hours straight, you haven't slept in three days, All right. You are exhausted. There's a valid reason you don't want to go to the gym. I get it. Okay. And it will 100% make you feel better.

Well, now let me ask, does it need the lazy fuck part? Like you've done it all these years and that's the assumption. If you took the approach of, okay, you worked 12 hours straight, you haven't slept in three days, All right. You are exhausted. There's a valid reason you don't want to go to the gym. I get it. Okay. And it will 100% make you feel better.

And like, I care about you enough to push you to do that. Like, that is how I talk to my clients, right? Like, and that is the voice I want in your head. Not this like, you lazy fuck, get up. Like that's not how I would talk to someone. That's not how I would talk to a client that I was trying to like help change because it doesn't work right now. It's just for us.

And like, I care about you enough to push you to do that. Like, that is how I talk to my clients, right? Like, and that is the voice I want in your head. Not this like, you lazy fuck, get up. Like that's not how I would talk to someone. That's not how I would talk to a client that I was trying to like help change because it doesn't work right now. It's just for us.

And like, I care about you enough to push you to do that. Like, that is how I talk to my clients, right? Like, and that is the voice I want in your head. Not this like, you lazy fuck, get up. Like that's not how I would talk to someone. That's not how I would talk to a client that I was trying to like help change because it doesn't work right now. It's just for us.

We've gotten so used to that negative self-talk to being the self-abuser that we don't even see it as abuse. But Max, there's another way.

We've gotten so used to that negative self-talk to being the self-abuser that we don't even see it as abuse. But Max, there's another way.

We've gotten so used to that negative self-talk to being the self-abuser that we don't even see it as abuse. But Max, there's another way.

Yeah, yeah, totally, totally.

Yeah, yeah, totally, totally.

Yeah, yeah, totally, totally.