Dr. Caroline Fleck

Yeah, yeah. And yet, I know there are people listening right now who do actually feel the, I'm a lazy fuck. And if I don't keep telling myself that, I will just become...

Yeah, yeah. And yet, I know there are people listening right now who do actually feel the, I'm a lazy fuck. And if I don't keep telling myself that, I will just become...

Yeah, yeah. And yet, I know there are people listening right now who do actually feel the, I'm a lazy fuck. And if I don't keep telling myself that, I will just become...

Yeah, I mean, you want to be you want to be the type of person that you would want to be around. You know, there's this really interesting distinction in my head between like loneliness and solitude. And I think if you are kind to yourself, the times when you're alone become opportunities for solitude rather than like that deep, lonely, I need someone else. I need to be with somebody else.

Yeah, I mean, you want to be you want to be the type of person that you would want to be around. You know, there's this really interesting distinction in my head between like loneliness and solitude. And I think if you are kind to yourself, the times when you're alone become opportunities for solitude rather than like that deep, lonely, I need someone else. I need to be with somebody else.

Yeah, I mean, you want to be you want to be the type of person that you would want to be around. You know, there's this really interesting distinction in my head between like loneliness and solitude. And I think if you are kind to yourself, the times when you're alone become opportunities for solitude rather than like that deep, lonely, I need someone else. I need to be with somebody else.

I like need to escape myself to feel comfortable, to feel safe.

I like need to escape myself to feel comfortable, to feel safe.

I like need to escape myself to feel comfortable, to feel safe.

I would say if you are in a situation with someone where you feel like you have tried everything and it's just not changing, you're just not able to get through or the relationship is deteriorating in some way, try validation. It's going to feel really counterintuitive, but just try to look for the validity in some part of the other person's experience.

I would say if you are in a situation with someone where you feel like you have tried everything and it's just not changing, you're just not able to get through or the relationship is deteriorating in some way, try validation. It's going to feel really counterintuitive, but just try to look for the validity in some part of the other person's experience.

I would say if you are in a situation with someone where you feel like you have tried everything and it's just not changing, you're just not able to get through or the relationship is deteriorating in some way, try validation. It's going to feel really counterintuitive, but just try to look for the validity in some part of the other person's experience.

You don't have to validate the entirety of it. It could just be their emotions, could just be their thoughts, or it could be their behavior. Just pick one thing that makes sense to you and convey that.

You don't have to validate the entirety of it. It could just be their emotions, could just be their thoughts, or it could be their behavior. Just pick one thing that makes sense to you and convey that.

You don't have to validate the entirety of it. It could just be their emotions, could just be their thoughts, or it could be their behavior. Just pick one thing that makes sense to you and convey that.

But I can see the validity in it. Okay. So that's probably my... Even as a clinician, when I'm feeling stuck with someone, like we're just not making any progress, I often need to go back. I haven't sufficiently validated them. Once I've sufficiently validated them, then we can move on to change. So that would be with regard to others.

But I can see the validity in it. Okay. So that's probably my... Even as a clinician, when I'm feeling stuck with someone, like we're just not making any progress, I often need to go back. I haven't sufficiently validated them. Once I've sufficiently validated them, then we can move on to change. So that would be with regard to others.

But I can see the validity in it. Okay. So that's probably my... Even as a clinician, when I'm feeling stuck with someone, like we're just not making any progress, I often need to go back. I haven't sufficiently validated them. Once I've sufficiently validated them, then we can move on to change. So that would be with regard to others.

If you're in a relationship in which you're feeling, again, as we described earlier, like really kind of lonely, one thing to consider is... whether or not, one, you've been vulnerable, and if you have, two, if it has felt safe, if you have felt accepted in those moments or not. And if not...

If you're in a relationship in which you're feeling, again, as we described earlier, like really kind of lonely, one thing to consider is... whether or not, one, you've been vulnerable, and if you have, two, if it has felt safe, if you have felt accepted in those moments or not. And if not...