Dr. Ciara Kelly

Was he always lying to me?

Or she always lied to me or whatever.

So, yeah, I do think that physical cheating, worse too, because I think people could find themselves emotionally cheating, having an emotional connection with somebody, perhaps almost without realising or certainly without meaning to or without consciousness.

I think

physical cheating is a decision.

I think emotional connections outside your relationship sometimes could be accidental, actually.

I've had couples.

Yeah, you know what I mean?

I don't think it is either.

I also remember talking to a woman once who felt when her partner was masturbating,

she said, he masturbates.

That's not the word she used, but she did nonetheless.

He brought himself to bed.

He brought himself to bed.

And I was like, that's perfectly normal.

And she said, I feel like he's cheating on me.

And I was, I couldn't get my head into that riddle at all.

I think that's very controlling because that's not actually cheating that's just normal human bodily function and from very young people do that and all of that and I thought we were way past shaming people for stuff like that but shame is another good thing for a podcast but anyway so I don't really think online messaging is cheating although I suppose it could be part of cheating

I don't even know what this question is.

I'd certainly want to know if my partner was cheating.