Dr. David Burns

Go for it, Rhonda.

Go for it, Rhonda.

Yeah, right. Absolutely. He'd have to convince us that of the motivational thing. And then after that, then the semantic technique works really well, but it won't work in the absence of the motivational piece. But let's just show how that works. You know, you can be him and I'll be his negative thoughts. Are you ready? For the semantic technique? Yeah. Okay, great. Yeah. Sounds good.

Yeah, right. Absolutely. He'd have to convince us that of the motivational thing. And then after that, then the semantic technique works really well, but it won't work in the absence of the motivational piece. But let's just show how that works. You know, you can be him and I'll be his negative thoughts. Are you ready? For the semantic technique? Yeah. Okay, great. Yeah. Sounds good.

You know, John, I'm the negative John, and I want you to know that you should have plans on a Saturday.

You know, John, I'm the negative John, and I want you to know that you should have plans on a Saturday.

Great. Now, you know, John, so you beat me on that one, but the fact is you should be doing better at work. You're too slow and probably you're going to screw up and ruin the whole project for the company.

Great. Now, you know, John, so you beat me on that one, but the fact is you should be doing better at work. You're too slow and probably you're going to screw up and ruin the whole project for the company.

No, I just think you're condemned to slowness and inadequacy, and you should be better than you are.

No, I just think you're condemned to slowness and inadequacy, and you should be better than you are.

Well, okay, but what if you ruin the projects at work, and what if everyone else is way better than you, and they find out about you?

Well, okay, but what if you ruin the projects at work, and what if everyone else is way better than you, and they find out about you?

Yeah, I think that's great. That's a beautiful example. And again, I did quite a bit of exchange with this fellow, and I think he also has some kind of shyness and social anxiety mixed in with it. So he He got up the courage to tell one of his colleagues that he thinks he's working awfully long hours and not being productive enough and barely keeping his head above water.

Yeah, I think that's great. That's a beautiful example. And again, I did quite a bit of exchange with this fellow, and I think he also has some kind of shyness and social anxiety mixed in with it. So he He got up the courage to tell one of his colleagues that he thinks he's working awfully long hours and not being productive enough and barely keeping his head above water.

And he told her that he thought he was the only one who feels that way. And he was delighted when she told him she's been feeling exactly the same way. And he felt that exchange made him feel like a member of the human race again. And so in addition to the great techniques that you mentioned, I think that to use exposure techniques and confront his

And he told her that he thought he was the only one who feels that way. And he was delighted when she told him she's been feeling exactly the same way. And he felt that exchange made him feel like a member of the human race again. And so in addition to the great techniques that you mentioned, I think that to use exposure techniques and confront his

his fear of people and began to open up and use self-disclosure and also the survey technique to tell people how you're really feeling inside and ask how they're experiencing things and how they might be thinking of you and use that as an opportunity to be vulnerable and to actually get closer to people because I think one of the problems of being alone isn't that you can't be happy when you're alone but

his fear of people and began to open up and use self-disclosure and also the survey technique to tell people how you're really feeling inside and ask how they're experiencing things and how they might be thinking of you and use that as an opportunity to be vulnerable and to actually get closer to people because I think one of the problems of being alone isn't that you can't be happy when you're alone but

you may be missing out on some realistic feedback and knowing how reality works, knowing how other people really are, because sometimes we've got fantasies that other people are so much better than we are and so much smarter and point of fact. Most people

you may be missing out on some realistic feedback and knowing how reality works, knowing how other people really are, because sometimes we've got fantasies that other people are so much better than we are and so much smarter and point of fact. Most people