Dr. David Burns

Could we demonstrate two things that, you know, I don't want to push it too hard, but from the internal point of view, maybe we could do some externalization of voices or something, or, you know, double standard technique, or, you know, identify the distortions in some of the thoughts that might...

trigger shame like did i don't want to push you too much into this position but i was just thinking like did did did you have negative feelings like when you were bullied about being poor short four eyes uh

trigger shame like did i don't want to push you too much into this position but i was just thinking like did did did you have negative feelings like when you were bullied about being poor short four eyes uh

called a fag if you were or race or things like that did you have negative thoughts and feelings and can you recall what what what some of them were or maybe the the ones of kids who have come to you for your wonderful help as a psychiatrist well sure i mean i think the biggest one that we all kind of feel is that gosh what if everybody thinks that you know yeah

called a fag if you were or race or things like that did you have negative thoughts and feelings and can you recall what what what some of them were or maybe the the ones of kids who have come to you for your wonderful help as a psychiatrist well sure i mean i think the biggest one that we all kind of feel is that gosh what if everybody thinks that you know yeah

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Yeah, so this would be kind of like double reattribution. I just made that up and I don't know much. I thought I better use some big words and impress people pretty quick here. The one piece of the reattribution is instead of just, you know, just...

Yeah, so this would be kind of like double reattribution. I just made that up and I don't know much. I thought I better use some big words and impress people pretty quick here. The one piece of the reattribution is instead of just, you know, just...

Instead of thinking, you know, why did they do this in terms of what did I do wrong or what's wrong with me, to be thinking, you know, what kind of pressures are they under or what kind of living situation are they coming from? What kind of pain are they hiding or what are they trying to achieve? And then you also mentioned... responding in non-defensive or adversarial ways.

Instead of thinking, you know, why did they do this in terms of what did I do wrong or what's wrong with me, to be thinking, you know, what kind of pressures are they under or what kind of living situation are they coming from? What kind of pain are they hiding or what are they trying to achieve? And then you also mentioned... responding in non-defensive or adversarial ways.

I would have a suggestion if people want to try, and keep in mind that nine out of ten of my suggestions end up on the cutting room floor, so that's fine. But I was thinking we could do some feared fantasy or externalization of voices on the kinds of thoughts that one of us or all of us might be having when we're bullied and see if we can crush those thoughts.

I would have a suggestion if people want to try, and keep in mind that nine out of ten of my suggestions end up on the cutting room floor, so that's fine. But I was thinking we could do some feared fantasy or externalization of voices on the kinds of thoughts that one of us or all of us might be having when we're bullied and see if we can crush those thoughts.

And then secondly, we could do kind of a feared fantasy thing and practice, you know, what is going to be effective ways of responding to a bully. So we could go into the theater of bullying, you know, and interact with the bully from hell to do the verbal responses. And then we can go into the...

And then secondly, we could do kind of a feared fantasy thing and practice, you know, what is going to be effective ways of responding to a bully. So we could go into the theater of bullying, you know, and interact with the bully from hell to do the verbal responses. And then we can go into the...

mind of of someone who's being bullied and see if we can help help crush those those thoughts would that make sense yeah yeah so oh i was going to just use another quick example that basically what you're saying and then we'll do the example that in in a very thorough way which is you know like i'll tell people is that you know if

mind of of someone who's being bullied and see if we can help help crush those those thoughts would that make sense yeah yeah so oh i was going to just use another quick example that basically what you're saying and then we'll do the example that in in a very thorough way which is you know like i'll tell people is that you know if

But essentially, just to simplify what you're saying, which is already simple, is to say that we do have a choice about how we're going to interpret a situation, how we're going to think about it, and we can get into a hypnotic trance of despair and anger and humiliation and guilt and shame and thinking about what's wrong with me and...