Dr. Ellen Langer

Yeah.

agree with that i mean if you you know you break your right arm what will happen is that you'll be using your left arm more and that strengthens it and so for many people your left arm is not as strong as your if you're right-handed um so at the end of all of it you're in a better position yeah you just never know i mean i did break my right my right wrist playing football and i remember uh being really sad for i don't know about a year and a half because i was no longer to play football anymore i was in a cast at a surgery that took a bone from my hip that did a graft

And the same problem for people is they don't realize when they're in a transition

transitions are almost necessarily discomforting because you're not where you were and you're not yet where you're going to be.

Yeah, you're in the middle somewhere.

Yeah, and to look forward to where they're going rather than look back.

Because the looking back, so let's say you're assuming that if you had stayed in football, you would have continued to enjoy it.

Who knows?

Exactly.

You know, that if you're doing what you're doing now fully, everything you've done before has led you to it.

Exactly.

And you can't do more than that.

There you go.

I can probably just repeat what I've said to you.

One is to recognize that behavior makes sense or else people wouldn't do it.

And that will improve our relationships and our relationships to ourselves.

The second is that people have to appreciate, enjoy, exploit the power of uncertainty.

And I mean, just be mindful, but that follows.

Each of these leads to the other.

Of course.