Dr. Ellen Langer

And then eventually you're able to hit, and at that point it's no longer fun.

I mean, when was the last time you got excited that you could hit the elevator?

Or if you were playing golf and you got a hole in one each time you swung the club.

There's no game there anymore.

It's the not knowing that makes it exciting.

The mastering, not having mastered.

And so when you get something wrong, I think we should all be more like,

I do the computer programmers, where when they get it wrong, they don't say they got it wrong.

It's a bug.

It's in the system.

And I'm going to figure it out.

If you think of, I like crossword puzzles.

So in doing a crossword puzzle, it's great fun for me, or words with friends, or whatever, word games.

After I finish it, it wouldn't be fun for me to do it again.

because i know all the answers so you have to recognize that that not knowing is what makes it interesting what makes it impossible for some of us under so many circumstances is somebody else standing over you uh whether it's a teacher a spouse making you feel stupid for not being able to answer the question right away judging you shaming you and then you know that we need to realize so

My goal, this is, I'll write my next book about this.

Right now, the world is vertical.

You have those of us on top, comfortably, and you have, we make it as if we really know how we stack up, right?

As if the measures we're using are always reliable.

And I want to take that vertical and make it horizontal with the realization that everybody has special skills.