Dr. Emily Morse
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard 17 Feb
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Absolutely. Yeah. I have a community I started last year. It's called Smart SX and it's, it's this from the sex without me community and it's people all over the world that we come together, you know, once a week I bring in like coaches and other sex positive voices just to help people realize like you are in community and it's amazing that people open up and support each other.
And right now we are working through all the pillars so people can really kind of get a handle on of manage them. And one more thing I want to say about sexual intelligence, which is why it's tricky. It's more of like the pillars are created so we can become our own sex experts and we can troubleshoot. You might have a week where you're really high in embodiment.
Like I was feeling really embodied, but actually I've been holding the scrudge against my partner and I haven't been a great collaborator. So really, it's more like I don't think you ever get to 100% on all five in every day of your life, just like health, like you have some weeks you work out more, but you haven't been hydrated enough.
So that's the thing about the pillars is just a way to look at them. So you can kind of navigate yourself through whatever your sexual challenges are in your goals.
Oh, yeah. I mean, I think that sex can be so healing for so many people. When you think about it, it's a release. It's connection. It's intimacy. It's touch. It's learning to feel safe in your body with a trusted partner or partners. And so there is so much release that can happen when you actually feel safe and you're able to advocate for yourself, ask for what you want, really, like,
be present with your pleasure. And that's when the amazing release happens because so much of that's holding us back from pleasure. Like we, you actually can't fully access pleasure if you're living in an activated trauma state, or if your nervous system is highly dysregulated, it really, they just, they don't, you know, they cancel each other out. It can't coexist.
And so healing when you're with someone or even with yourself, I mean, I've done so much healing on my own through my own like solo sex practices.
When I was first like starting out, I realized like I had a lot of these things that I talk about and just through my own power of touch and having sensual touch without the goal of orgasm, but the goal of exploration was so healing and, you know, things come up and, you know, memories and, you know, it's so great to work through it with a coach or a practitioner or a trauma therapist.
But when we do that work, sex can be incredibly, incredibly healing and it's accessible for everybody. Even people who have had sexual trauma, you know, people who have had sexual trauma, sometimes they think like sex is just, isn't accessible for them. But even, you know, sometimes they've even
with a trusted practitioner they've been able to make it sort of work for them even if they've had horrific traumas in their life they can actually even work it into their erotic stories or you know there's just it's endless and that's the thing when people talk about their sex lives getting boring or stale or you know and that happens to everybody I'm going to tell you that I would say that I don't like saying everybody I would say the majority of people are going to experience that
But when you think of sex as really a healing practice and an embodiment practice, it's endless because every day you're starting anew. Every time you sit down, it's a new practice.
It's another way that women are like, I'm sorry, I'm crying, I'm sorry. Oh, yeah. I mean, it's because everything lives in our body, every emotion, every experience, every trauma, everything. And so sometimes it's really not your body saying, like, I am sad, I am happy. It's just an actual release because when...
we are having a release of an orgasm or we're having all this like spiking cortisol, oxytocin, testosterone, you know, there's so much happening with our hormones at any time that when we are in the state of connection with somebody, we might cry, we might moan, we might. And so it's a completely normal experience.
I think, I mean, actually like there's been a lot of times I've cried after sex and I've learned to like love it. Like I'm like, Oh God, I'm fully in the moment and experience of love. of, of connection and healing. So I think for so much of these things that we, about sex that we judge and we shame and we feel bad about that, if we can just say, wow, this is part of the experience.
I like, I celebrate it. I celebrate it all. Like sex is messy and it's loud and it can be dirty and it can be so many things, but Again, because it's not normalized, because we don't see a lot of examples in the media or anywhere of what a healthy, normal sexual expression is, we immediately go to judgment. We immediately think something's wrong and I am broken.
But if we can take our tears or our so-called mess or our feelings of brokenness and celebrate that as like, wow, this is like true sexual expression, I mean, then I think that that's another way to really reverse the shame and turn it into pleasure.
yeah you know the day-to-day i mean let's normalize the fact that i would say that the majority of relationships are going to go through the dip it's going to happen because you know you know postpartum perimenopause menopause certain foods we eat if we exercise don't exercise i mean so many things impact our libido like i said medications mental health physical health and so just first off normalizing that it doesn't mean that you're broken it doesn't mean that there's like this huge
problem. It just means like accepting like this is an understanding that your libido is going to fluctuate over time. And when you're in a relationship, also acknowledging the fact that in every relationship, there's usually a high desire partner and a low desire partner.
And the low desire partner actually sort of controls the sex life because they're the ones who are deciding when the sex happens, when the sex doesn't happen. And
And it's just a note to say that this is something just couples are going to have to have to learn to communicate about and recognize and first saying like, hey, I'm noticing that our, you know, our sex life is sort of changing and like, what can we, you know, what can we do together? But here's some very specific tips.
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