Dr. Emily Morse

We, you know, I always talk about foreplay and I don't even love the word foreplay because it centers sex on penetration and penetration is not the magic for the majority of women. But even that, like, it's not just like a light suggestion. It's actually a requirement. So for couples to have like a ritual to have like with, you know, partners, I think like let's breathe together for a minute.

Let's hold hands. Let's look into each other's eyes. Let's make sure the room is set up. So it's all of that. It's, it's really engaging the senses and being intentional and, and setting yourself up so you're actually ready rather than feeling like you sort of fell into the sex and you weren't ready for it and it doesn't feel, yeah, intentional.

Let's hold hands. Let's look into each other's eyes. Let's make sure the room is set up. So it's all of that. It's, it's really engaging the senses and being intentional and, and setting yourself up so you're actually ready rather than feeling like you sort of fell into the sex and you weren't ready for it and it doesn't feel, yeah, intentional.

Let's hold hands. Let's look into each other's eyes. Let's make sure the room is set up. So it's all of that. It's, it's really engaging the senses and being intentional and, and setting yourself up so you're actually ready rather than feeling like you sort of fell into the sex and you weren't ready for it and it doesn't feel, yeah, intentional.

Absolutely. That's the thing. Like a lot of women who have been assaulted can actually like have fantasies that are working that into it. Role playing out something that might've been such a traumatic event in their life and then flipping it into, you know, more of erotic sensual play.

Absolutely. That's the thing. Like a lot of women who have been assaulted can actually like have fantasies that are working that into it. Role playing out something that might've been such a traumatic event in their life and then flipping it into, you know, more of erotic sensual play.

Absolutely. That's the thing. Like a lot of women who have been assaulted can actually like have fantasies that are working that into it. Role playing out something that might've been such a traumatic event in their life and then flipping it into, you know, more of erotic sensual play.

Yeah. That's it. Having agency and power.

Yeah. That's it. Having agency and power.

Yeah. That's it. Having agency and power.

Yeah. I would say first, you're not broken. There's nothing wrong with you. And again, we center sex so much on penetration. This goes back to like cultural conditioning and religion and all the things. We should only be having sex to make a baby. However, the majority of women are not going to have an orgasm through penetration.

Yeah. I would say first, you're not broken. There's nothing wrong with you. And again, we center sex so much on penetration. This goes back to like cultural conditioning and religion and all the things. We should only be having sex to make a baby. However, the majority of women are not going to have an orgasm through penetration.

Yeah. I would say first, you're not broken. There's nothing wrong with you. And again, we center sex so much on penetration. This goes back to like cultural conditioning and religion and all the things. We should only be having sex to make a baby. However, the majority of women are not going to have an orgasm through penetration.

They're going to have an orgasm through like fingers, a mouth, a toy, words, energy, like so many other ways. And so first figuring out what is actually getting you the most turned on, aroused, and connected. And so really it's about figuring that out for yourself.

They're going to have an orgasm through like fingers, a mouth, a toy, words, energy, like so many other ways. And so first figuring out what is actually getting you the most turned on, aroused, and connected. And so really it's about figuring that out for yourself.

They're going to have an orgasm through like fingers, a mouth, a toy, words, energy, like so many other ways. And so first figuring out what is actually getting you the most turned on, aroused, and connected. And so really it's about figuring that out for yourself.

It could be through some solo work or having a partner that's really open to collaborating with you and finding out what is gonna allow you to orgasm. But sometimes again, when our goal is based on sensuality and connection, you might find that the orgasm happens Because you're releasing this notion that it should come out in a certain way.

It could be through some solo work or having a partner that's really open to collaborating with you and finding out what is gonna allow you to orgasm. But sometimes again, when our goal is based on sensuality and connection, you might find that the orgasm happens Because you're releasing this notion that it should come out in a certain way.

It could be through some solo work or having a partner that's really open to collaborating with you and finding out what is gonna allow you to orgasm. But sometimes again, when our goal is based on sensuality and connection, you might find that the orgasm happens Because you're releasing this notion that it should come out in a certain way.

But I think, again, it's really about just exploring your own body, being with a partner who's open to figuring that out with you, why it's going to happen, how it's going to happen, and what you require for orgasm. A lot of us just are expecting, again, that was kind of the start of my work was when I realized that I was tired of faking orgasms. You know, this was like 25 years ago.