Dr. Emily Morse
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard 17 Feb
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And, you know, there's something about this connection. And I think that there's a lot of learning in there. Like, what is it? About this sexual connection that feels so good. Pay attention. You're going to put that in your self-knowledge bucket. And then when you are searching for a partner, again, that has all the other things that you're looking for, you can be like, this was the thing.
Because a lot of times we don't even remember. We don't even dissect it or think about it. But take this as a note. Like, wow, this person does these things that are allowing me to feel safe and fully expressive. Yeah. I would say it's not about their penis. It's not about their moves. It's not about the way they smell. Like it might be part of it, but usually it's about us.
So how they're making us feel and that's transferable.
There's so many. I would say most, I think that we should always be aroused and turned on all the time. I mean, we covered that, but like we should always be having orgasms. We should be having sex certain, yeah, a certain number of times a week. Yeah.
That was just my conditioning. That's a really big one. I would say that that was the first misconception when I started this career that I was shocked. I thought that, again, it goes back to societal conditioning. Men are...
ready to go they should have erection 24 7 and women are just like frigid and don't really want it like so not true there's so many women who want sex all the time they're super turned on aroused in their bodies and they want sex more than their their male partners and I'm telling you my heart goes out to men like men
have to have that we are expecting, like they have this pressure that they should always know what they're doing. Again, be aroused, turn on, ready to go. And that's just not the case for many men. They don't, they too might not want sex all the time. I think that the other misconceptions are that fantasies aren't normal. You shouldn't have fantasies or porn is bad.
I think porn and, and use it a healthy way can be great. Or that maybe using sex toys means that it's somehow lesser of an orgasm or not really,
you know i don't know people judge them gosh if you have to use lube there's a problem just so many narratives yeah we get to debunk all of that right here and now it's done whatever your truth is gets to be your except your truth that's what watch the shame fall away once you
This makes me insane. This has just been around forever and you will go on TikTok and you will find so many tropes like this. Like, well, she slept with me on the first date and I didn't want to date her. We make them beg for it or wait till the third date or wait till you're committed or relationships won't last. I mean...
people will say that they'll continue to say that I don't believe in any rules around this I think that listen if you are truly feeling connected with somebody and you're feeling safe with somebody and you're not too drunk you weren't coerced I mean that's the thing like a lot of times we get really drunk or liquid courage and we had sex and regret it I'm talking about fully embodied sex where you wanted to have it you met somebody it felt great and you actually had a good time and you're glad that you did it it doesn't really matter what happens after that if you if
full on were there for the sex because you wanted it. You might be with a partner who had a judgment that, well, I would have made you my wife, but you had sex with me. So now it didn't work. I would say you dodge a bullet. That's not your person. They're legitimately judging you on this one thing that you did because you both wanted to in the moment.
Like to me, these are just like, seriously, not your people. I just think that. And you'll hear from just as many coppers like we had sex in the first day. We've been together 30 years. So I just don't believe in the rules and the conditions around this. I will say that sex is such like so many things. It's intimacy, it's connections, it's kissing, it's touching.
If you know that you're somebody that once you do have sex, you get really attached or you connect all these emotions to it, then maybe... You could wait to have sex, like maybe wait to have penetrative sex. Maybe you just slow it down and say, God, can we go back to just the making out? That felt really, really good. We're allowed to stop sex. We're allowed to say, you know what?
This is moving too fast. It's not what I want right now. And like change the moment. I have to say that I used to think I couldn't stop sex, that there was like... Once I got going with sex, I had to continue because it would like hurt my partner's feelings. They would get blue balls. Like I was afraid they'd call 911. Like that was a thing. It's not a thing.
I mean, yes, they might be uncomfortable for a minute, but like no one's going to die because you. So I just think, again, knowing yourself, knowing that like it actually is really hot to wait too. Like it's really hard to be like, let me see if I actually like this person and I trust them and I feel safe with them. Hard to feel super safe on a first date. Yeah. Yeah.
Like truly, like true safety comes from, you know, consistency and knowing someone. So again, like okay to wait, but also no judgment around if you decide to a full body.
But it's so truly the drinking opens us up. Like So yeah, just permission to have your own experience and then like know yourself and be like, well, maybe on this date that I'm not going to drink or I will drink and I'll be okay with what I decided. Like there's no, again, this goes back to the shaming around, you know, sexuality. It's just like, really? What if you just had a really good night?
Yeah. It was a good time. And then you went home.
so much easier once you're clear about your boundaries and your values and like, yeah, let those people fall away who has all these judgments around sex, who has all these like rules and strict, like, you know. It's fear. Yeah.
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