Dr. Emily Morse

And I have to say that people have to, I love that you said non-negotiable because it's I can't tell you how many people are like, everything's great and we're married, but we don't have great sex. We're married and have never been attracted. We have six kids.

And it's like, that's really tough when you've already like walked on the aisle and committed to somebody, but you're like, everything was great. But the sex, the sex is not a but. Sex is not an afterthought. Like that is what we're talking about. That sex is wellness. Sex is important. Your pleasure is important. And you have to prioritize it from the jump.

And it's like, that's really tough when you've already like walked on the aisle and committed to somebody, but you're like, everything was great. But the sex, the sex is not a but. Sex is not an afterthought. Like that is what we're talking about. That sex is wellness. Sex is important. Your pleasure is important. And you have to prioritize it from the jump.

And it's like, that's really tough when you've already like walked on the aisle and committed to somebody, but you're like, everything was great. But the sex, the sex is not a but. Sex is not an afterthought. Like that is what we're talking about. That sex is wellness. Sex is important. Your pleasure is important. And you have to prioritize it from the jump.

So again, if you're dating somebody and it's only been a few times you've gone out or it's been a few months and it just, you've tried, like I, someone recently reached out, they're like, I'm dating this person. And, and it's really like, they've tried to have conversations with them about a few things that weren't working. They weren't receptive.

So again, if you're dating somebody and it's only been a few times you've gone out or it's been a few months and it just, you've tried, like I, someone recently reached out, they're like, I'm dating this person. And, and it's really like, they've tried to have conversations with them about a few things that weren't working. They weren't receptive.

So again, if you're dating somebody and it's only been a few times you've gone out or it's been a few months and it just, you've tried, like I, someone recently reached out, they're like, I'm dating this person. And, and it's really like, they've tried to have conversations with them about a few things that weren't working. They weren't receptive.

They're like, but I really like, I'm like, listen, it's been three months. This is the honeymoon phase. If the sex isn't great right now, like, cut your losses. This is still, it's like, they're not open. They're showing you who they are right now. You know, you have enough information at this point.

They're like, but I really like, I'm like, listen, it's been three months. This is the honeymoon phase. If the sex isn't great right now, like, cut your losses. This is still, it's like, they're not open. They're showing you who they are right now. You know, you have enough information at this point.

They're like, but I really like, I'm like, listen, it's been three months. This is the honeymoon phase. If the sex isn't great right now, like, cut your losses. This is still, it's like, they're not open. They're showing you who they are right now. You know, you have enough information at this point.

Oh my God. I love this question because it's so true. Like you nailed it. The reason why we don't have these conversations with our partners is exactly that. We're afraid we're going to offend them. We're going to hurt their feelings. And we're like, I know it's not great, but I actually don't know what I want. So I think I'm just going to stay mute about it and hope it gets better.

Oh my God. I love this question because it's so true. Like you nailed it. The reason why we don't have these conversations with our partners is exactly that. We're afraid we're going to offend them. We're going to hurt their feelings. And we're like, I know it's not great, but I actually don't know what I want. So I think I'm just going to stay mute about it and hope it gets better.

Oh my God. I love this question because it's so true. Like you nailed it. The reason why we don't have these conversations with our partners is exactly that. We're afraid we're going to offend them. We're going to hurt their feelings. And we're like, I know it's not great, but I actually don't know what I want. So I think I'm just going to stay mute about it and hope it gets better.

it doesn't get better.

it doesn't get better.

it doesn't get better.

Like, let me just tell you when you put the sex on the back burner, it's going to be staying on the back burner. And it's just, I just see so many people waiting for it. So my first thing is, is, is actually saying to your partner, you know, I always talk about timing, tone, and turf. It's my three T's for any conversation, especially a sex conversation.

Like, let me just tell you when you put the sex on the back burner, it's going to be staying on the back burner. And it's just, I just see so many people waiting for it. So my first thing is, is, is actually saying to your partner, you know, I always talk about timing, tone, and turf. It's my three T's for any conversation, especially a sex conversation.

Like, let me just tell you when you put the sex on the back burner, it's going to be staying on the back burner. And it's just, I just see so many people waiting for it. So my first thing is, is, is actually saying to your partner, you know, I always talk about timing, tone, and turf. It's my three T's for any conversation, especially a sex conversation.

This is a starting point, is if you haven't talked about sex yet, find the right time when you're not halt, hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. You know when you're hanging out, it's a good environment. The tone is curious and compassionate and chill. And the turf is outside the bedroom. I actually think we should leave our bedrooms for sleeping and for sex.