Dr. Eric Bender

How much are you eating?

What are you eating?

What does a typical day look like?

Because there are eating disorders that are presenting in men, restricting food and trying to sculpt their bodies in a certain way, teenage boys in particular.

So I would ask about that for teenage boys.

I think that would be important.

I think also asking, quite frankly, asking about porn online, things like that, like how much time he's spending watching the internet, how much time spent- Is that a growing issue in patients?

I think a couple of ways, teenage boys and girls, exposure to porn at earlier ages, looking at it, not really understanding that age, what it is.

I think it can be an addiction for men in particular, same for women, but I tend to see more men with that issue.

It can also get in the way of realistic expectations sexually with partners that they want their partner to do certain things they see in videos.

Or I've had a ton of people that are dating in my practice tell me,

yeah, you know, when I'm with these people sexually, they all need porn to get off.

And it's, I want to be with somebody that doesn't need that.

Or they'll say things like, yeah, they have these crazy ideas and they want to do things that I want no part of.

So I'm having to tell people, okay, you know, when you're dating, maybe you should set some ground rules with your patients.

Set some ground rules with your partner.

Say things like, all right, look, no hitting, no biting, no spitting.

And I don't want any derogatory language.

So asking people actually about these things, I think is becoming more and more important.

Oh yeah.