Dr. Ethan Kross

No, I think you will. I think you will. So what was King Solomon famous for? Being? A king? Being wise.

He was a wise guy. So King Solomon, like super wise individual. People would travel from all over the world to receive his counsel. But when you look at his own life, he made a slew of terrible decisions. This is true of humanity. Like when I ask audiences, hey, you're much better at giving advice to others and taking that advice yourself, every hand in the room goes up.

He was a wise guy. So King Solomon, like super wise individual. People would travel from all over the world to receive his counsel. But when you look at his own life, he made a slew of terrible decisions. This is true of humanity. Like when I ask audiences, hey, you're much better at giving advice to others and taking that advice yourself, every hand in the room goes up.

He was a wise guy. So King Solomon, like super wise individual. People would travel from all over the world to receive his counsel. But when you look at his own life, he made a slew of terrible decisions. This is true of humanity. Like when I ask audiences, hey, you're much better at giving advice to others and taking that advice yourself, every hand in the room goes up.

When you use distance self-talk, what it's doing is you're using language to automatically shift your perspective, to put you into this, I'm talking to someone else advice giving mode. Think about the word you. The word you is the verbal equivalent of pointing a finger at someone else. Most of the time we use the word you when we're thinking about or referring to another person.

When you use distance self-talk, what it's doing is you're using language to automatically shift your perspective, to put you into this, I'm talking to someone else advice giving mode. Think about the word you. The word you is the verbal equivalent of pointing a finger at someone else. Most of the time we use the word you when we're thinking about or referring to another person.

When you use distance self-talk, what it's doing is you're using language to automatically shift your perspective, to put you into this, I'm talking to someone else advice giving mode. Think about the word you. The word you is the verbal equivalent of pointing a finger at someone else. Most of the time we use the word you when we're thinking about or referring to another person.

That's exactly right. You're putting yourself into this coach advice giving mode. And what did we say earlier? We don't say to our friends the things that we say to ourselves when we get stuck in that chatter. So when you use your own name and you to coach yourself through a problem, it's like it's putting guardrails up on your self-talk that prevents you from going down that more negative route.

That's exactly right. You're putting yourself into this coach advice giving mode. And what did we say earlier? We don't say to our friends the things that we say to ourselves when we get stuck in that chatter. So when you use your own name and you to coach yourself through a problem, it's like it's putting guardrails up on your self-talk that prevents you from going down that more negative route.

That's exactly right. You're putting yourself into this coach advice giving mode. And what did we say earlier? We don't say to our friends the things that we say to ourselves when we get stuck in that chatter. So when you use your own name and you to coach yourself through a problem, it's like it's putting guardrails up on your self-talk that prevents you from going down that more negative route.

Ethan, all people make mistakes. You've made mistakes before. You've learned from them and you'll be fine.

Ethan, all people make mistakes. You've made mistakes before. You've learned from them and you'll be fine.

Ethan, all people make mistakes. You've made mistakes before. You've learned from them and you'll be fine.

Rather than I'm such an idiot. I mentioned before we started filming that I grew up in Brooklyn, New York. And although you may not hear the accent right now, in my mind, when I go into the chatter zone, it's a filthy sometimes interberatement. And so I'm not doing that when I'm in distant self-talk mode.

Rather than I'm such an idiot. I mentioned before we started filming that I grew up in Brooklyn, New York. And although you may not hear the accent right now, in my mind, when I go into the chatter zone, it's a filthy sometimes interberatement. And so I'm not doing that when I'm in distant self-talk mode.

Rather than I'm such an idiot. I mentioned before we started filming that I grew up in Brooklyn, New York. And although you may not hear the accent right now, in my mind, when I go into the chatter zone, it's a filthy sometimes interberatement. And so I'm not doing that when I'm in distant self-talk mode.

So really what we see happening is you get into this more challenge mode. I can manage this. I can do it. As opposed to being in what we call threat mode. I can't manage this. I'm going to screw up. So another example would be one of my favorites from a study was someone was thinking about having to plan a huge event for someone and it was really, really stressful. You can do this.

So really what we see happening is you get into this more challenge mode. I can manage this. I can do it. As opposed to being in what we call threat mode. I can't manage this. I'm going to screw up. So another example would be one of my favorites from a study was someone was thinking about having to plan a huge event for someone and it was really, really stressful. You can do this.

So really what we see happening is you get into this more challenge mode. I can manage this. I can do it. As opposed to being in what we call threat mode. I can't manage this. I'm going to screw up. So another example would be one of my favorites from a study was someone was thinking about having to plan a huge event for someone and it was really, really stressful. You can do this.

You can manage this retirement party for this person and get a great turnout. People are going to come and they're going to love it. You've got this. You know, in my book, I actually, I share an artifact from Mr. Rogers. Remember Mr. Rogers? He was the- Really? Wow. There is some cosmic connection that led me to bring this up.