Dr. Harville Hendrix

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And I think nature sort of sets it up that way.

In adulthood, however, you become a parent and you can't now live in child consciousness with your children.

You have to move to adult consciousness and you become a resource for your children.

But somehow nature didn't figure out how to shift the adult consciousness to your relationship.

So one side of your brain says, Ellen.

You're my resource.

The other side of my brain says, my children, I'm a resource for my children.

So I would be fine with the kids, be a good parent, and then fight with Helen because she wasn't meeting my needs.

So what you have to come to understand is that when you become a parent, nature has set it up that you also become an adult.

So that your needs are not outside of you.

You are a resource.

Not looking for resources.

You are a resource.

And you have to become a resource for your relationship.

Right.

So in working with a couple, that's exactly what has to happen.

Nobody ever gets to this place on their own.

And I hate to say this because it sounds so arrogant.

This particular insight into the transformational relationship does not yet exist generally in human consciousness.

Because we do three things.

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