Dr. Jenna Flowers
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first heard Dec 2016
last heard Dec 2016
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And and you can choose to parent your kids really well, even in two different homes.
And the children that recognize that their parents can be friends, um, and they see it because it's being modeled to them, end up having a much easier time of understanding and healing from their parents' divorce.
So when you put that co-parenting arrangement first, I'm like, I'm gonna I'm gonna choose to pursue this, even if my co-parent right now
is hates me.
Maybe you might be in a situation where it's not mutual right now in the co-parenting.
But if you continue to choose to pursue working with that person and you're doing your own inner work to help make sense of it.
You know, like the times where you feel hurt or or whatever and you're not engaging in the negativity and you're staying with the facts is like what we talked about earlier with
A differently wired child, like having, you know, this is the evidence that shows that this is why we need to parent a certain way with our kids or the kind of support that we need, you know, and you just stay very constant and objective, you know, at some point you hope that that other parent will come along and support you in that.
And for the parents that don't, you're still better off taking the high road because the level of
negativity and energy that goes along with the fight on choosing to not get along and bad mouth your ex, you know, all of that, especially if you have a child with more high needs, they're gonna be so sensitive to that and it shuts them down.
So it really tears down your own connection with your child.
So it it's really a very lose lose situation if you choose the other way.
have Debbie a whole chapter on fostering mutual respect in your co-parenting relationship and how to avoid all the distractions that come along with a co parent that is trying to take jabs at you and bring you down and get away from the real, you know, heart of what you're trying to work on, which is co parenting.
Yeah.
Well, I wrote it for this generation of co-parents, where not only are there divorced or separated co-parents, but there are also elective co-parents, you know, people that never met their
their soul mate, you know, and but they've got a really good friend and they decided let's have a baby together.
There there are some people like that out there.
Or people that are are living together and and then decide, you know, they get pregnant and they didn't intend it, but now they're pregnant and how do they go about co parenting?
So the the book goes into attachment so that you understand how to become a secure connector so that you can pass that down to your child and foster a secure connection with your child.
It also goes into understanding the developmental needs of children because I often have found in my parenting classes that parents have unrealistic expectations of where their children should be at certain developmental stages.
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