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And they'll have a whole story that goes along with it. so then if you could fall in love with your future and the heart produces a very strong magnetic signature and you get your brain coherent and working really well that intention that you have has a signal in the field and we've measured this and so then if you could begin to experiment by changing your energy could it change my life
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That's the experiment. I'm just curious. If you started doing it that, you could actually shorten the distance between the thought of what you want and the experience of having it. And all of a sudden, you're no longer going anywhere to do it. It's kind of coming to you.
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Now, if you experiment like that and then you are successful at it and you start seeing the synchronicities, I guarantee you, you're going to keep it up. Yes. I guarantee you, it's not going to be like, oh God, I got to go fall in love with my future now. It's not going to be like that. You're going to be like, whoa, like it's happening.
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Like whatever that is that I don't know what it is, but you're changing your energy. And so to become a creator in your life and truly, truly practice it, if you're feeling the feeling of your future, you can't look for it. How could you look for it if you feel like it already happened? And we cannot attract anything in our life that we feel separate from.
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And that means you've got to maintain that modified state of mind and body to keep your vision alive. And if you do, the experiment should be, hey, hey, I'm doing this to experiment. Is it the truth? I'm doing it for the truth to take the belief and actually behave that way to ultimately become the creator of my life. And so that you fall in that zone, you fall into that flow.
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And now you're gonna wanna feel that feeling more than you're gonna wanna feel your victimization. And that's when you no longer belong to your past. That's when you belong to your future. Abundance is just one experience and the infinite number of experiences I believe that we could have as creators.
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And so you're giving your body a taste emotionally of the future. And the stronger the emotion you feel, the more you remember that future. And you literally are embossing the circuitry for you to believe in it more. So if we default and become the victim of our life, and we say that some person or some circumstance or some condition is causing me to feel this way and to think this way,
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And people just, they just forget all the wonderful things they did or became when they created that abundance. And I've sat with billionaires. I've sat with them. And you know what they say to me? They say, they've said it more than once. We are miserable. We are in agony. You know why? Because they can't be present enough to enjoy a sunset, even though they're on a yacht.
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They can't be present enough to enjoy a great meal. They just can't be present with their families. They can't be present. And so, like, that's not the life you want. What you want, abundant people want to be free. Yes. That's what they really want. Free to do it, right? And really, if your model of abundance is that you have so much more than you need, that you would give it away.
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that would be an abundant person, yes or no? Yes. And so your experience of abundance in the experiment called life can be way more than being an angry, abundant person.
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The moment we become angry or frustrated or guilty or unworthy or afraid or anxious, we can't believe in that future any longer. Those emotions are associated with past memories. And those emotions cause us to behave as if we were in our past, make choices that are equal to our past and believe in our past. And more people believe in their past than they believe in their future.
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And it's so much easier to forget your vision of the future than to remember it. And so if that's the truth then, if you understood that this emotion that you're feeling is really a creative emotion, living in fear and living in anger and living in hostility and hatred and judgment and resentment, that has nothing to do with your future. It has everything to do with the past.
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And so the problem is, is that we get addicted to those emotions that keep us connected to the past. And there's a story that goes with that past. And so many people believe in that story. And why not believe in a different story? And it usually takes crisis or trauma or disease or diagnosis or loss for people to finally make up their mind to change.
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But that default that takes place so seamlessly when we feel the emotions of our past causes us to think the same way, to act the same way, and to feel the same way. And how you think, how you act, and how you feel is called your personality. And your personality creates your personal reality. That's it. That's it.
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So the present personality who's sitting here today called you has created the present personal reality called your life. That's the truth. So if you wanted to create a new personal reality, a new life, you would have to change your personality.
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And the first step in that is becoming conscious of your unconscious thoughts, those thoughts that say, I can't, it's too hard, I'll never change, it's my ex's fault, it's a, you know, whatever, you know. It's all your ex. Or if you really truly wanted to be a happy person, you would have to stop complaining.
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You would have to stop blaming and have to stop allowing your environment to control how you're feeling and thinking. And if you truly wanted to become a new personality, you would have to decide that the emotion of lack cannot belong in an abundant person. This is where the rubber hits the road now. Because how could you believe in a future that you haven't seen yet?
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And the end product of an experience in three-dimensional reality is called an emotion. And so most people wait. for their wealth to feel abundant. They're waiting for their new relationship to feel love. They're waiting for their success to feel empowerment. They're waiting for their healing to feel wholeness or gratitude. That's the old model of reality.
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So then you gotta trade that emotion of your past and that story's gotta go with it. And when you overcome your emotions, you master your creations. And that's freeing the body from the past. So the person who wants to become wealthy, They got to romance wealth. Romance it. They have to romance it.
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And you have to start thinking about how a wealthy person would think, how a wealthy person would act, how a wealthy person would feel. And you would have to become that personality. And that personality really should begin to create some change in your personal reality. You know, the synchronicities that are not just parking spaces, you know, not that stuff.
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But the bigger stuff that would stretch your belief so that when you see the synchronicity, all of a sudden you're like, oh my God, I created that. Is that possible that I actually created that? Now you start believing more that you're the creator of your reality instead of the victim of your reality. And that's the truth.
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And you cannot experience that truth unless you step in the realm of creation. And in order for you to arrive at that wealth, you have to make a very clear decision that that person who wants the wealth and who is in lack of having it is going to have to make a lot of changes to finally run into that goal or vision of their wealth. You can't create a new personal reality as the same person.
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Now, honey, you got to become someone else. That means you got to give up. some aspect of those unconscious thoughts, behaviors, and emotions that are programmed because we do them so much and think that way. And that's the hard part of change. When people do the work, I want to be really clear. They don't do the meditations to heal. They do the meditations to change.
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And understand that when I change, my body will change, my life will change. That's the experiment they're involved in. So this energy, this feeling that you have, the fundamental question is when you leave this place, can you take it with you every day? Could you remember this feeling and could you bring it up on your own?
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Ah, now you're becoming the creator of your life because now you'll believe more in that future and less in your past. And then you'll default just like we all do, but how many times do you have to forget? until you stop forgetting and start remembering. That's called the moment of change.
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And that's catching yourself from defaulting seamlessly back to that old personality that has been programmed for us to be victims. That if you say to someone, why are you so unhappy? Why are you so mad? Why are you so angry? Oh, it's that person, it's that circumstance that's causing me to feel this way and think this way. Well, that's an unconscious program.
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A person is saying that someone in their outer world or some condition is controlling. It's controlling their feelings, controlling their thoughts. Anything that's controlling us, we're victims to. And that's got to change. So then to overcome victimization is worth more than all the wealth in the world. Because that's exactly what creates the wealth. That's exactly what creates the health.
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It's the overcoming process that is the becoming process. And that's how you arrive at that vision. And this energy is the energy that takes you there. And you got to be able to bring that up on your own. That means you got to come out of your resting state. And that when coming out of your resting state and not allowing or waiting for someone or something to do it for you,
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But doing it on your own, wow, there's sovereignty and there's empowerment in that. That's how any person arrives at their dream. They just don't let their energy drop. And if they do, they get back into that state again. And they earn the belief in themselves.
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I think that, you know, we live in chronic disbelief. What if the truth was that you're greater than you think? more powerful than you know, more unlimited than you could ever dream. If that was the truth, that you are the creator of your life, you have to start, if you believe that to be the truth, then you have to believe in yourself. And your belief in yourself must be earned.
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Yeah, I got it. But we create based on lack. We create based on separation. You see the sports car, you see the wardrobe, you see the scene, you see the vacation, and you see that experience that you want. your brain naturally goes, oh God, that would be so wonderful to be in that reality, to be in that future. Based on the lack of not having it,
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in the plane of duality and separation that lack causes us to dream about having it. So the natural thing is to dream of a new possibility based on your understanding that you don't have that experience yet. You understand? Yes. So then now that vision of that future, the brain naturally creates for the passionate person,
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That vision where they're seeing that future, they put themselves in that future. And when they do that, they feel the emotion of that future. And they're actually doing that by thought alone. So once they feel the feeling of that future, they can believe in that future because they felt it. Interesting. Right? And they'll tell you there's nobody or no one or no circumstances.
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I know that I could create that. And you've all done it. Everybody in this room has done something great. And you kept that vision alive in your mind and you got your behaviors to match your intentions. You got your actions equal to your thoughts. You got your mind and body working together.
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You stopped thinking certain thoughts like I can't, it's too hard, I don't feel like it, I'll never change. You had to make different choices. And the hardest part about change is not making the same choices the day before. And that means you're gonna get uncomfortable. You stopped doing the same things, the same habits, sitting on the couch, whatever it was.
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You didn't have time to complain, you know, that stuff. You started staying away from the experiences with certain people and certain circumstances. You didn't want to live that anymore. And you had to really get beyond your emotional feelings and do it anyway.
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And we do this all the time, and then you run, and all of a sudden the synchronicities start to happen, everybody's experienced this, and next thing you know, the experience occurs, and you feel the emotion from that experience, and it takes away the lack or separation from not having it. So the emotion is the end product of the experience in three-dimensional reality. Say it again?
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The emotion is what? The end product of the experience. It's the payoff. The payoff from the experience, having the experience, is the emotion that is the consequence of the experience. And that emotion is all the sensory information that you're perceiving. Everything you're seeing and hearing and smelling and tasting and feeling.
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All that information is rushing back to your brain and jungles of neurons are organizing into networks. And when they string into place, another part of the brain called the chemical brain, the limit brain, the emotional brain begins to make chemicals to produce that emotion. And that emotion then takes away the lack. And now you say, I created that. And then you go to the next one.
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Now you can get really good at doing this. You could study, you could get schooled, you can get coached, you can learn from your mistakes, you could get disciplined, and you can accumulate more things and get better at doing that. But there is another way to create where you don't have to do so much. And those are laws that transcend just typical Newtonian laws.
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And what if you were to feel the emotion of the future before it happened every single day, remember that feeling and that feeling was for your heart to fall in love with your life, to fall in love with your vision, you'd have to awaken that heart. If you could do that and marry that with the vision of your future, I promise you it'll be easier for make choices to step into that future.
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It must be earned. And the only way that we can believe in a future is when we feel the emotion associated with it. Because if you feel the emotion associated with it, your body is your unconscious mind. It's so objective, it does not know the difference between the real life experience that's creating that emotion and the emotion that you're creating by thought alone.
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I guarantee you'll believe in it and do things to advance yourself into that future and you step right into it. So then if it doesn't happen when we want it to happen, you know what I mean? Like people stop me and they say, well, I've been creating my reality for three days, nothing happened. And I say to them, you're not that good. Look, I don't know what else to tell you. You're not that good.
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Or they'll say, how come I'm not living in Mallorca with my two dogs and my lover? I'm like, because the person who's living in Mallorca looks nothing like you. Like, that's not what the person looks like. So when it doesn't happen, the lack becomes greater.
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then what and because lack is separation and separation is based on time and so when you imagine that vision of your future you're putting your attention in a future reality you have one point of consciousness that's your future and you are making the choice from this point of consciousness that that's where you want to go And the distance between those two is called time.
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So time is based on lack or separation. Are you with me? Yes. And when it doesn't happen, we start to feel more lack and more separation. So we start to force outcomes. So we try harder. We try harder. We manipulate. We compete. We fight. Because trying is what you do when you're in lack.
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And so the person's living in separation their whole entire life, waiting for the event to occur to take away the feeling of not having it. And it could be their whole entire life. Wow. And that becomes a program. So then you ask them, why are you this way? Well, because life isn't working for me. That's the belief that they have. It's unfair.
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I think it's because people are afraid that's going to happen to them again. Oh. And when we have a traumatic event, big or small, in fact, you're always on the lookout for any signal in the environment, any person or circumstance that's going to be the smallest cue that's going to say, ooh, I've done this before. I better get ready for it.
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So we're in a constant state of bad news waiting for the worst case scenario. So let me just finish this. The question really was about self-love. The person who lives in resentment is making themselves unhappy. A person who's judging everybody else because they're judging themselves is making themselves unhappy.
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A person who's complaining, blaming, making excuses, feel sorry for themselves, they're making themselves unhappy. There's nobody doing that to them. You say it's your ex. Okay, let's take your ex. Let's put him in a straight jacket. Let's shoot him to the moon. Now what? You're still thinking that way and feeling that way. And that person is no longer in your life.
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You're defined by that story, by that past event. Okay? The person's truly sincere and thinks there's something other than that emotion of resentment. What's on the other side of it? Am I willing to sit through it long enough? And no matter how much the pain is or what my body does, I'm going to sit this one out. I'm going to work with my body and keep bringing it back into the present moment.
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It's like training an animal. You keep doing it over and over again. You stay. You stay. You say, I'm not getting up. I'm not eating. I'm not moving. We're going to keep lowering the volume. You keep reconditioning the body to a new mind. Sooner or later, it surrenders. It surrenders to a new mind.
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When that occurs, there's that liberation of energy, and energy moves into the heart, and you feel love for yourself. You feel a respect for yourself. You feel an honor for yourself. You took your power back. You built your field. Something feels right. When we look at the data of people who do this.
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And we see their scans, their brain scans, we see their HRV measurements, and they get good at this. We measure their oxytocin levels. Now, oxytocin is the love chemical, right? It's made in the pituitary gland. It is the love chemical causes us to bond, to connect, to unify. And when I showed the values of oxytocin levels with these people to scientists, they're sometimes 200 times above normal.
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Now, that's not a little love. That's a lot of love.
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It's a lot of love. So oxytocin signals nitric oxide, and nitric oxide signals another chemical called endothelial-derived relaxing factor, and that chemical causes the arteries in your heart and your lungs to literally open up, and blood flows into your heart, and your heart is filled with energy, just like when it engorges the sexual organs.
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There's an engorgement of blood in there, and it activates it with energy, and there's a mind that's created. It's a consciousness. Now, this one opens up. It's a whole different consciousness. In fact, The research on oxytocin shows that the slightest elevation in oxytocin, it's impossible to hold a grudge. It's impossible. You say, dude, I feel so good. I'm good. No, no, no. I'm good.
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I'm really good. That kind of state means I don't want to feel anything else but this. So I am not going to compromise myself or my energy to a lower denominator just because of you. In fact, I'm really good around you. I'm really okay. I feel so good. I don't want to judge you because I don't want to lose this feeling. So then imagine being around a cat like that.
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Being around a person like that, that's really easy to be around because they're okay with themselves. And when they're okay with themselves, they relate with people differently. In fact, they relate with them unconditionally. They just love them unconditionally, and that causes an attraction. It causes a bond, right?
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So one of the things I learned last year in watching people in this work and week-long events, I do my best to pay really close attention, Looked at an audience one day and I looked out in the room just we've just finished a walking meditation. Everybody sat down and I kind of glanced around the room and everybody had this radiant smile. And I said to them, Hey, who's making you happy?
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By the way, who? Who's making you happy? There's nobody doing that to you. You're doing that to you. You're making yourself... I mean, you're not relying on anybody in your life to do that. Now, that is an attractive energy. That's the person who relates well with money. There's a relationship with money. They relate well with people. They're very giving. They're very caring.
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They want nothing in return. They're more present because that's who they're practicing being. And so there's a natural affinity, a natural attraction because the person is really present and they're really okay. And something is different about them. Something is unique about them.
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So the relationship we have with people when we're in that state where we're really okay with ourselves and we've made ourselves happy, we're really happy with ourselves.
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allows us to love just about we'll find beauty through the lens of love in anything when and no one else sees it right getting there is the overcoming process that is what creates self-love now to be very clear i think many people i think i'll include myself we confuse pleasure with love and it's not the same thing.
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Well, pleasure is doing something that makes you feel good but has nothing to do with love. Love has everything to do with something that you feel independent of pleasure. When you overcome yourself and you arrive at your goal, you reach your dream, you never give up on yourself, you had hard moments, you fell to your knees, you brushed yourself up, you got up, you showed up again for yourself.
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It's amazing to watch this. I watch it at week-long events. I watch people literally change in seven days, and they showed up when they said, I'm too tired, I have a handicap, I have a disease, I don't understand how rough my pass is, I'm an addict, I was in jail, my mother was abusive. They showed up in spite of I'm too old, whatever that is.
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You keep showing up for yourself, you start feeling really worthy, really worthy to receive. And the universe only gives us what we think we're worthy of receiving, right? So when you're in love, you're in a whole lot less lack. And if you're in a whole lot less lack, In a sense, you're moving closer to source. And that's a really good feeling. That's a really good feeling.
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So practice that every day. Practice that every day in your relationships with people, Your relationship with your body, your relationship with money, your relationship with your phone, your relationship with your car, your relationship with everything would be different. Yes. And so the overcoming process is the becoming process. You make yourself happy.
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You no longer need anybody to do that for you. You have a person in your life who is conscious that wants to make themselves happy and share their joy and their love with somebody. Well, you have something really unique. It's really special. And love is a very bonding chemical. It's a very bonding energy. If you look at oxytocin levels in mammals,
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uh you typically see it when the female has just given birth and she's grooming the offspring and she's touching it and licking it and nudging it and and taking care of it the there's oxytocin levels are released through the limbic brain through the midbrain that's the bonding brain they're smelling they're connecting and they're attracting one another it's creating a connection
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honeymoon stage relationship where there's a lot of intense connection a lot of intimacy releases oxytocin creates monogamy creates a bond that creates unity creates connection right so show the values to our some of the scientists and my colleagues and they see oxytocin levels 200 times normal they're like dude what are you doing like what is going on is it couples week what is going on here
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And I say, you know, I say the same thing. I say, number one, I want people to fall in love with the future, just like they've fallen in with another person, because if they do, they're bonded to that future, just like they're bonded to another person.
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Secondly, if you truly, truly want to connect to pure love, to source, to singularity, to oneness, to wholeness, to the fertile void, to vacuum energy, whatever you want to call that universal intelligence, that's pure consciousness, that's pure love. If you hit that moment where you hit connection, you will feel that arousal of love. It'll be profoundly memorable for you.
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And it's not chemical, it's electric. It's very electric. So you hit a few of those, it becomes you and you become it. And so your love for the divine, your love for the mystical, your love for the unseen, your love for source,
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that the love affair begins and it's like being in love it's no one can tell you you're in love you just know it and it gets really hard to miss a date imagine you go and you go and connect every day and you start your day from that place That's a relationship. That's a relationship with the world that you're bringing. So I think the overcoming process is part of it.
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I think it's practicing getting to that place. I think it's practicing opening our hearts more, moving out of survival, working with our bodies. In survival, it's not a time to love. It's not a time to communicate. So your relationship that's built on emotions other than love, there's going to be a limit to love, right? And so...
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you got betrayed someone else got betrayed you get together talk about your betrayal work yourself up into a froth feel the emotions get emotional agreement get a connection you're connecting the same energy the same emotion because you're sharing the same information you're sharing the same memories and you can relate with one another that's a certain level of consciousness for all the people that you've seen have successful long-term relationships
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They forgive. They forgive the emotion. Now, the emotion is going to keep you in the past, right? So they have to be able to forgive.
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The love that we withhold is the pain that we experience lifetime after lifetime. You know, it's how it is. Say it again? The love that we withhold is the pain that we experience lifetime after lifetime. Oh, man. And when we master our emotions, we master our creations. So that's a creation. And you have to overcome the memory and the emotion.
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And when you do, you belong to the future instead of the past. Oh, man. So otherwise, well, that's a perfect explanation of karma. You live by that emotion. That emotion is going to drive a certain behavior and cause you to think a certain way. And you're on the wheel. People are living the same lifetime every day. They're in cycles.
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They're living the same lifetime after lifetime because they haven't overcome the emotion. No one's doing that to them. The soul can't go to the future. It can't go. It can't go if it's stuck in the emotion of the past. So the soul has to overcome the event by overcoming the emotion. Forget what happened yesterday. You'll never hear me say to anybody, tell me your story. I will never say that.
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I would never do that to you. Wow. I would say, overcome the emotion. And then the story ends. Wow. Because the memory without that emotional charge is the wisdom we get from the experience. We never have to do it again. And now the soul says, okay, I'm ready for the next adventure. Okay. So I was betrayed. Okay. I learned the lesson. I did this. I did that. Okay. I got it.
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But we discovered that when people analyze their life within some disturbing emotion, they make their brain worse 100% of the time. Holy cow. Because you're thinking in the past, the answer is not there. Overcome the emotion. Actually, thinking about it makes the brain worse. It drives them into higher states of arousal. Overcome the emotion. You have the answer to your own question.
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It's because it's not in the known. It's not in the past. You've got to get beyond it. I say to people when they ask me questions, just seven days, just cross the river. You're going to have the answers to your own questions. There's going to be no better life coach for you than you. Right. So then the person who shows up worthy in their life...
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
A person who's happy because they're making themselves happy, that's such an unknown for everybody that they've just left and showed back up in their life or they usually complain with. They're like, oh my God, this person's joined a cult. Oh my God, this person seems way too happy and they're happy without me. And really it's just an energy that the person has broken out of the chains.
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
They free themselves from the chains of the past, right? And so that doesn't mean that they don't get frustrated, don't get angry. They just don't waste their time staying there because living by that emotion will create a gap between the way things appear and the way things really are. Wow. And if we respond during that period, we'll always say the same thing. I should have never said that.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
I should have never done that. I should have never sent that email or that text. You're altered in some way. So learning to shorten the refractory period of your emotional responses is emotional intelligence, right? and getting really good at that then allows a person to show up differently. When people create the life they want, which happens a lot, Why would they hold a grudge?
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
Why would they do that? They trust. They free themselves and they free that person. Everybody's been betrayed. Everybody's been hurt. But if your life is wonderful, who cares? Whoa, I wasn't conscious or whatever. And now it's when your life isn't working. And it ain't working and you're living by the same emotion. And that past, you're going to keep it alive.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
But you're the only one keeping it alive. Where is it? Where is your past? Where is it? It's only there, right? It's in a memory. It's a memory. It's not here. Yeah, it's not here. So then people spend enormous amounts of time not even knowing. not even aware that they're living in that state and always predicting.
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
The default mode network in the brain is always predicting the next moment based on what it's learned in the past, right?
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
You're just going to get ready for the next one. You're recreating the past. Your future is your past.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
Yeah. And that's all the known, right? So getting a person... To no longer live in the predictable future, you know, where they're just habituated, where they get up and do things and they're on a program. Getting a perspective, predictable future is the known. Familiar past is the known. Living by the emotion, remembering the event.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
If the familiar past is the known and the predictable future is the known, there's only one place where the unknown can be, and that's the present moment. Getting a person to labor for the present moment liberates energy in the body, and that's when the person starts feeling more like themselves, and they don't feel as altered.
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
And so you overcome the emotion of resentment, just use this as an example, by sitting in the fire for a week and just facing off with it and just working with your body and retraining it to a new mind. I guarantee you, That when you see your ex, you'll see a part of you you used to be that you no longer are. And you'll have nothing but compassion and love for her.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
And you'll be like, wow, wow, I get it. I totally get it. There's no longer the past anymore. You're not connected to it any longer. And you free that person and your relationship changes and something shifts. And she's seeing you differently because you're showing up differently. And it's not anything you're saying. You're not lecturing them. They're just not showing up as the memory.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
they had of you and that allows them to be different. And that's a great service.
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
You're altered. You're an altered self.
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
Yeah, I think that all of that lack, all of that separation is separation from love, right? And the problem is that we've just been conditioned into thinking that it comes from out there. It comes from that person, that drug, that circumstance, that thing, that object, this app, whatever it is. You're relying on your outer world to change your inner world.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
and so when things are good you feel good when things are feel bad you feel bad so you're you're out of fact you're not a cause in any way so what if though you had a way to find that independent of your outer world the data we have suggests it's absolutely possible now you're free you're free like you don't need anybody or anything you'll be a lot cooler to hang around with everybody would be like well you know that's just that that would allow them why i i know this
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
Your presence would allow them to move out of survival. They would open their heart a little bit more. They'd trust you a little bit more. They'd be more kind. They'd be more soft-spoken, less egocentric. Your presence would do that and may not be the first time, but they would start figuring out like, wow, this guy is
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
really different you know he's something's different about him and and that's just because you're present and and you're giving them your attention without judgment you you see how hard it is to change you've actually made that change because you've made that change and you see that you've made that change but you see that in them you're no longer judging them You have compassion for them.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
Like, dude, that's a tough one. It took me a long time to get over that. But you're not judging them. Like, what's wrong with you? You're like, oh, my God, I totally know what that's like. You've crossed that river. So, of course, you would never offer them advice unless they asked you. You would probably give them a one-liner. I mean, people who heal in our work, so many times...
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
You know, people in a state of desperation will say, what meditation did you do? And they laugh at them like there's nothing to do with the meditation. It was just I changed. And it was an arduous process. But they're telling a different story. They're telling the story of their future. They're not telling the story of their past, their ex or their betrayer or whoever that person is.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
They have no regrets about that. Because why?
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
It's not like they're even trying to forgive to be spiritual. You know, people who try to forgive. Like, I'm really going to try to forgive.
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
It's just not how that works. Like, you are in love. You don't have to try to forgive. You just don't want to lose this feeling. You take your attention off that person. You're good. There's a lot of freedom in that. And that's how people heal. They're building their own field. They're giving their body their energy back again. They're taking their power back in so many ways. Right.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
And then there is community, a collective consciousness. I like great conversation. I like spirited conversation. I like to be taught. Scientists are people in my life that I love. I like to engage in just what the limit is and let everybody take us on a journey to see how far we can go. I don't like to talk about things where there's pain or suffering or what. I don't. Or there's ego.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
I don't really like that. That's a consciousness. And everybody's done it. But if you're truly on the path of evolution, you outgrow it. You outgrow complaining. You just don't want to make yourself unhappy anymore. You outgrow talking about yourself like you're better than anybody else because if you do, you've got to face off with that person tomorrow and overcome them tomorrow.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
After a while, you're like, dude, just stop that so you don't have to deal with you like that anymore. So you just start outgrowing things that are just a side effect of your evolution. It's not like you have to try to do it. It's just the side effect of a change in consciousness, a change in energy, a change in awareness, a change in emotional states. And so in the heart...
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
it is the selfless place. It's a selfless place. We give up from the heart. We care from the heart. We're kind in our heart. We're compassionate in our heart. We're inspired in our heart. You know, we fall in love with our heart. We're grateful in our heart. And so I think people feel with every other part of their body but their heart. Like they just don't feel with it, right?
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
So practice feeling with your heart. And God, we have such great data. You know, we put these monitors on people for 24 hours, right? And I used to think primarily it was women that had these moments. Now we're seeing that men have them too. In fact, the men whose spouses or partners take them to an event and they really don't want to come, those guys are going to be fine.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
They have really, really big moments. So we see them in their meditation where, You can these little blocks of five minutes and you see the heart just drop into coherence. And it's just beautiful lines, beautiful looks. You can see this. It's very easy to see. You see this person sustaining it for 45 minutes during their meditation. So you're like, hmm, all right, this person nailed it.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
You go to the next meditation, another 45 minutes again. Done it once, done it twice. This is looks like this person's getting a skill. All of a sudden they do it a third time.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
another 45 minutes and then lo and behold those three meditations in one day then they're they're in their room and they'll get unpacking and getting ready for bed they're still wearing the heart rate monitor and while they're not in a meditation for one hour while they're just unpacking getting ready there's an enormous amount of hard coherence that's taking place for a whole hour why because just like a person who has a panic attack
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
who's embracing the worst case scenario in their mind every day and emotionally feeling the anxiety and the fear of that event actually occurred. That image of that emotion, that stimulus and response, that thought and feeling has conditioned the body to become the mind of anxiety. The body has a panic attack
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
with you or without you try as you may to control it with your conscious mind you can't control your program subconsciously right so is it possible to have a spontaneous love attack and that's what she had she had on one hour or her body went into ecstasy wow and you could see it i said love attack a love attack wow I said to her, what did you do? She said, and I saw it.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
She got in bed and she laid down and rolled over and went to sleep. So you see her about an hour and 10 minutes, perfect heart coherence, and just see it drop off into sleep. 1,300, 1,400 different chemicals released to restore and repair the body.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
the love that you feel is is the glue that creates connection on a cellular level on a molecular level on an atomic level peel the atom all the way back right to the center of the nucleus and you have nothing but energy and that energy is what's called low entropy and low entropy is high order. And high order is high energy. And it's a lot of power.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
So as you move closer to that source of everything physical and material, we have such great data to show that people actually run into it. And when they do, their autonomic nervous system goes into these elevated states of high, high, high gamma brainwave patterns. Now gamma is super consciousness. Gamma is very conscious, very aware.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
So the person's whole entire autonomic nervous system is processing hundreds of standard deviations of gamma outside of normal. That's not a little gamma. And it's so coherent. Now the autonomic nervous system touches every single cell in the body, controls and coordinates all those systems, right? So now imagine stress is autonomic dysregulation, incoherence.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
This is autonomic regulation, but this is not a little
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
regulation this is enormous amount of energy that's taking place in the brain and the autonomic nervous system is on fire and every single cell in the body is getting touched by that frequency and that frequency is carrying information and energy is informing matter and that connection creates that feeling of pure love of ecstasy or bliss and now the person takes a piece of it with them they become more of it and it becomes them and so we measure
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
their blood and and there's a lot of oxytocin we measure their blood and there's information in that blood that wasn't there before that heals cancer that reverses alzheimer's that that causes the viruses to not enter the cell i mean it causes the microbiome to change in in a matter of days like so there that that interaction with that unifying field of energy that exists beyond our senses whose signature is oneness whose signature is wholeness whose signature is pure love
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
means then that it lives within you and all around you then you'd be remembering who you are and where you came from which is pure love and it is the most familiar unfamiliar feeling you'll ever have and it's not chemical wrong it's electric when you have that moment many times
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
there's an upgrade that takes place in the body there's a disease now it's gone there's the eczema it's gone there's a myasthenia gravis now it's gone um there's the parkinson's now it's gone there's the blindness now it's gone there's a energies in forming matter and that enormous amount of regulation high high amounts of regulation is raising the body in frequency it's raising the body in light and all diseases lowering frequency so the person is connecting to something
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
way bigger than their senses way something beyond their senses and it's coming from within them now and you only need one of those and you're you're okay from that point forward and the way you see life you some veil some illusion some conditioning some hypnosis is removed and you're now way more relaxed
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
in your heart and way more awake in your brain instead of unconscious, stressed out in a program, right?
The School of Greatness
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
my type of resonating resonating in that consciousness exactly you'll be able to find your tribe it'll be as obvious as anything exactly what whether you're looking for a partner or friends or community or you know a business partner that you can trust exactly you resonate and you feel that and and and the heart is a strong element in the creative process
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
So if you have a coherent brain, then you're sending the signal out into the quantum field. That's the potential in the quantum field that you're selecting, that already exists, and you've got to have an intention. The more coherent the brain, the more the electrical signal takes place in the field. But if you want to create the experience, the synchronicity, the opportunity,
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
You got to need a coherent heart, and the heart is the magnetic field, and the magnetic field draws things to us. So now we don't have to go get it any longer because that's what we do in three-dimensional reality. All of a sudden, you start noticing, I really didn't do anything. Well, I got the email. I got the phone call. I got the opportunities.
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3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships
I met this person who led to this, and wow, all of a sudden, I have this life. And so if you're going to believe in that future that you're imagining with all of your heart, it's got to be open and activated. We train people. To get in that place. And when they're in that place, they have wonderful relationships with everything and everybody because they're okay with themselves.