Dr. John Deloney

And when they, when they buy it for the first time, anything, if you ever go to a gas station to try to feel better, that's your first signal.

Probably not a good idea.

Um, where else in your life is he not showing up for you?

So I want you to treat this.

This might be what I would call it might be an overcorrection.

But I want you to treat this as though he has an alcohol addiction.

He is regularly consuming a substance that is altering his ability to show up for himself and his marriage.

And that is costing a bunch of money.

It's costing relational conflict.

It's costing relational disconnection, all that stuff.

And so anytime you're sitting with somebody who is struggling in any sort of addiction, what you can control in that moment is you.

And it's you saying, here is what I'm going to do next.

And yeah, I would advocate for you right now to get your own checking account and to make sure you've got your bills paid and make sure you've got your roof over your head and make sure you can afford your own counseling bills because this is a bigger issue than the $50 or $75 a day he's blowing at gas stations, right?

It's a much bigger issue.

That's just one of the alarm bells going off.

Okay.

Okay.

Is he still showing up at work?

Well, for a short time.

Do you work outside the home?