Dr. John Delony

And I really, really want this part of my life, which nobody on earth would blame you for, for wanting to be desired by your spouse.

Okay.

Yeah.

And so the only path in this box that you've made is,

is to decide I'm going to let go of resentment because it's solving no problems for me.

It's just setting fire to the small cage I've put myself in.

I know.

I can walk you through it, but I couldn't do it in a 15-minute phone call.

I can sit here with you.

Because your pain and your hurt is very, very real.

The rejection is very, very real.

You're not crazy.

Being told that you're disgusting is, I can't wrap my head around feeling like that.

So if physical sexual intimacy is off the table in your marriage, you have two choices.

You can stay, or you have three choices.

You can stay and be miserable and be angry all the time.

B, you can leave and you've said, I'm not going to do that.

Or C, I'm going to stay and I'm going to find out what play and eros and eroticism and joy and laughter looks like in this set of circumstances that I have found myself.

You got to sit down with a therapist and walk through that.

It's going to take time.