Dr. John Delony

Or he might look at you and say, I see how much you're doing.

You're doing so much.

Like I have everything I want in this season and you have to make peace with that, that you're worth being loved even when you're not quote unquote striving for whatever.

So give me two or three things besides just a minute of connection.

I just don't think that's enough.

what would peace feel like in your house right now?

So here's the thing we created in my house.

It's called grown-up time when my kids were really young.

And they knew that when I walked in the door, mom and dad went in the back bedroom and shut the door.

And they got a message from early on that the most important thing in my life was my wife and vice versa.

And we would just call it grown-up time.

And both kids would go, but they knew it.

And sometimes there'd be a temper tantrum because they're five.

They're supposed to throw temper tantrums.

I'm not going to lose sleep over that.

And y'all can't do that fully because you're going to be holding a one-year-old, right?

You can't just drop a one-year-old off in the middle of the couch and be like, here's the remote kid.

You can't do that, right?

But that's where chores can be helpful.

That's where coloring time, they can go do stuff and they learn to be bored and they learn to self-regulate.