Dr. John Duffy

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736 appearances 2 recordings 1 series first heard Oct 2019 last heard Jan 2025

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Capacity is different than action.

I I I I feel it's important to point that out because a lot of parents will say to me, There is no capacity.

They'll they they wouldn't write the teachers if I didn't.

But I always encourage parents like, okay, but they might do something.

Why don't you take a step back?

You know, while they're in the comfort of your home and the risks are relatively low, they're not off at college, they're not on their own yet.

Let's test out like how capable, competent, resilient they can be.

Let's say they get themselves into an academic hole.

Let's see if they can find their way out of that.

And you can make yourself available as a guide and a consultant and an ally in every way, but they're the contractors.

They're the ones who have to figure it out.

Let's see what they can do.

And let's give them the opportunity at the very least to try.

And if they decide I'm gonna opt out altogether, let's give them the opportunity, and this is hard for parents, I recognize this, to fail.

And to see what that's like and to see what they do in the wake of failure.

And um and sometimes that's I think most of us have needed that moment where it was like, Oh.

This one's so much worse than I thought.

I'm not gonna let this happen again.

This the that feeling

of boy that went poorly and that's on me.

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