TPP 177: Dr. John Duffy on Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the main focus of Dr. John Duffy’s new book on parenting teens in the age of anxiety?
If we judge and we assume our child is just being difficult for the sake of being difficult, I think we're missing a big point. They engage in things because they're drawn to them. And if we shift our assumptions about what we think our child is about and we kind of follow their lead, they'll they'll show us what they're about.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Reaver, and boy, do I have a powerful episode for you today. We are going to be talking about the experience of today's kids and teens and what's different for them from when we were their age. And consequently, what has Be different for us as their parents and caregivers. Because as my guest, Dr. John Duffy explains, we truly can't relate to the lives our kids are leading because they are facing many more stressors than we ever faced just by virtue of the pace of their lives, their access to technology, their connectivity to each other, and the technology at their fingertips.
John is the author of the brand new book, Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety, a book which, by the way, I devoured. And what I loved about this book and about the work John is doing is that he's helping parents like us know how to truly show up in the way our kids need us to. How to be the support they need, how to tune into their emotional lives, how to create a culture of emotional wellness in our homes, and so much more. This is a really thoughtful conversation with a lot of takeaways. And even though John's book is aimed more at parents of teens, everything we talk about is germane to parents with kids of any age. And as we all know, all kids grow up. So hearing what John has to share can help you be better prepared when your children enter adolescence.
Before I get to our conversation, I have a few quick announcements. First, there are several new supporters of this podcast that I want to give a shout out to. So a special thank you to Cecilia McMullian, Monica Croak, and Amy Kendall. Thank you for being a part of this community and for helping support the production costs for this show. I am so grateful for your help. And if you too get Get a lot out of Tilt Parenting and would like to make a small monthly contribution to help fund the show, it's easy to do. Just go to patreon.com slash Tilt Parenting and sign up. You can pledge ten, five, or even two dollars a month. It all helps. Again, that's patreon.com slash tiltparenting. Okay, so that's enough of the announcements.
Here is my conversation with Dr. John Duffy. Hey John, welcome to the podcast.
Thank you so much for having me, Debbie. It's good to be here.
It is good to have you here. You know, I just finished reading your book. I really enjoyed it. I think it's obviously super timely for what our teenagers are experiencing today. And it was really eye opening for me. So I'm I'm excited to share this with my listeners who, as you know, are parents raising neurologically atypical kids. So probably kids that even more than your average teen are dealing with anxiety. So as a way to get into this, I always like guests to just take a few minutes to introduce themselves. And within that, could you tell us about about why you took on this book and and why you wanted to write it.
Oh, I would be happy to, thank you. So I am a clinical psychologist up here in Chicago, and um I've been practicing for about 25 years, and I honestly never, if I'm being completely transparent, never really intended to work with teenagers. My plan was to work with high-functioning adults, nice and easy practice. Um and my first uh when I opened my practice, my first reflection. referral resource was a social worker at a high school.
How did Dr. Duffy’s career shift from adult therapy to working with teens?
And um and then my second was and my third was and I realized boy I really love these kids. Uh they they've got um remarkable strengths that often go untapped and um even when they are depressed or at their worst, when they're super anxious or angry or uh defiant.
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Chapters
5 chapters
1
What is the main focus of Dr. John Duffy’s new book on parenting teens in the age of anxiety?
0:00–4:14
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How did Dr. Duffy’s career shift from adult therapy to working with teens?
4:14–11:30
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What new stressors are teens facing today that older generations didn’t experience?
11:30–31:31
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How does the concept of the “emotional bank account” affect parent‑child relationships?
31:31–41:51
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What are practical ways parents can empower rather than disempower anxious teens?
41:51–48:13
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