Dr. Joshua Coleman
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first heard May 2026
last heard 9 Jul
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Good Life Project · Healing Family Estrangement: What To Say, And What Never to Say. · 9 Jul 2026
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Whereas in older generations, there just wasn't that kind of vehicle of
a potential closest or potential rejection.
And that also heats up all these dynamics.
Well, the other thing that's happened in the more recent past is that parents' expectation of closeness with their adult child has also escalated, that parents raising children in the past three decades or so
say that they want to be best friends with their children over the life course i mean i don't think my parents i'm a boomer i don't think they particularly wanted i mean you know they were nice people but i don't think it was their aspiration to be be my best friend and it wasn't my aspiration that they would be you know and some some perhaps many parents are very close to their adult children even best friends with them and it's nice work if you can get it
But the way that these expectations have escalated means that some adult children just feel like, you know, get your own life.
I don't want to be your everything, particularly for divorced parents.
They feel like, you know, you need to have other interests than me.
And part of that is that in the past three decades or so, parents have given up on hobbies and outside activities and even friendships.
And it all got kind of sucked up into the nuclear family and redistributed to the children, which, you know, in some ways has been.
a net gain for children, but it makes parents have expectations which aren't always in line with their adult children's needs.
It can be a burden to the child.
Every single letter from every single adult child I ever see says, you need to respect my boundaries.
I mean, there can be different things that they want to respect in terms of the boundaries, but I think part of it is just, back off, mom or dad.
Give me some space.
Give me some distance here.
I'm more important to you than I want to be.
And that's particularly true with the mothers and daughters that I see in my practice, where the daughters feel like way too responsible for mom's happiness and mental health and the like.
Yeah, it seems sort of almost counterintuitive.
And it is human nature, particularly if you feel either wrongly accused by your child or their memories are different from yours.
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