Dr. Joshua Coleman
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first heard May 2026
last heard 9 Jul
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Good Life Project · Healing Family Estrangement: What To Say, And What Never to Say. · 9 Jul 2026
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And I'm being the kind of person that I want to be, and I'm getting rid of toxic people.
And it sounds really good on the face of it, but at the same time, we have record high rates of mental illness and loneliness and social fracture and social isolation and people not having the same number of friends that earlier generations had.
had in part because we have become so preoccupied with what makes me happy, who makes me happy, etc.
And I think that that is a quite serious problem in our society.
Yeah, I mean, you know, the cognitive behavioral therapists say that the best way to resolve somebody or something that you're afraid of isn't to withdraw or avoid it, it's to engage it.
And I think that's also true in the social and in the political, this idea that people who disagree with you and your values and your
beliefs or somehow the enemy is really just making us much, much weaker as a society and individually.
We become stronger through engaging with people, learning how to tolerate their differences, learning how to learn from them if they are different from us, learning how to stand up for ourselves and protect ourselves, certainly.
But if your main go-to move is to cut people off and withdraw from them, then you're not really making yourself stronger.
You're just becoming more and more avoidant.
Yeah, when I think about somebody being estranged, I think of a real cutoff, not just somebody who's more distant than we'd like.
It's a relationship where that person basically says, no contact, I don't want any contact with you.
I mean, maybe if it's an adult child, maybe they reach out on the parent's birthday or something, but otherwise there's nothing, and that can go on for years.
So when I think about estrangement, I'm thinking about people who are, there's really a severing of the relationship.
Well, every case is different.
But one of the things I've learned is that there's basically five pathways to an estrangement.
As we were talking about earlier, there can be abuse or neglect.
When an adult child gets married, I did a survey of 1,600 estranged parents, and a significant 70% of them weren't estranged until their child got married.
So marriage can be
A flashpoint, particularly if the son-in-law or daughter-in-law doesn't like the parents and says something like, choose them or me, you can't have both.
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