Dr. Julie Smith

And they were supposed to just kind of give you a little boost on the days when you need it. And I thought, That was such a cool idea. And then, you know, at the time, I realized people were using my first book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before. They were kind of taking it with them to places in case they had a sort of crisis or a moment where they really needed it.

And I thought, oh, I wasn't really written for that. You know, it's more kind of skills and concepts that you learn and practice to improve over time. But it wasn't the words you need to hear when you're in the eye of the storm, you know, when you're in the moment and you just need a good talking to.

And I thought, oh, I wasn't really written for that. You know, it's more kind of skills and concepts that you learn and practice to improve over time. But it wasn't the words you need to hear when you're in the eye of the storm, you know, when you're in the moment and you just need a good talking to.

And I thought, oh, I wasn't really written for that. You know, it's more kind of skills and concepts that you learn and practice to improve over time. But it wasn't the words you need to hear when you're in the eye of the storm, you know, when you're in the moment and you just need a good talking to.

So, you know, why has nobody told me this before is more the sort of work on this and build it over time. Whereas open when is when you're in the thick of it and you don't know which way is up is a little pep talk and a few skills that get you through the moment.

So, you know, why has nobody told me this before is more the sort of work on this and build it over time. Whereas open when is when you're in the thick of it and you don't know which way is up is a little pep talk and a few skills that get you through the moment.

So, you know, why has nobody told me this before is more the sort of work on this and build it over time. Whereas open when is when you're in the thick of it and you don't know which way is up is a little pep talk and a few skills that get you through the moment.

Oh my God. Who reads a book cover to cover after they've had children? Yeah.

Oh my God. Who reads a book cover to cover after they've had children? Yeah.

Oh my God. Who reads a book cover to cover after they've had children? Yeah.

i actually did read a lot because i was nursing all the time but now that i have toddlers i'm like i don't know when i'm gonna read yeah that's it but um i like that that's like organized in that way so then you can just get yeah so each chapter is a different scenario that we all face at some point but the idea is that you can pick it up dip in where it's relevant to you and then get back out again um it's the way i like to read yeah i'm excited for that

i actually did read a lot because i was nursing all the time but now that i have toddlers i'm like i don't know when i'm gonna read yeah that's it but um i like that that's like organized in that way so then you can just get yeah so each chapter is a different scenario that we all face at some point but the idea is that you can pick it up dip in where it's relevant to you and then get back out again um it's the way i like to read yeah i'm excited for that

i actually did read a lot because i was nursing all the time but now that i have toddlers i'm like i don't know when i'm gonna read yeah that's it but um i like that that's like organized in that way so then you can just get yeah so each chapter is a different scenario that we all face at some point but the idea is that you can pick it up dip in where it's relevant to you and then get back out again um it's the way i like to read yeah i'm excited for that

oh um that if someone isn't meeting your expectations just ditch them you know that kind of yeah if your friend doesn't support you in what you're doing get rid of them as if they're you know as if friendship is something to be kind of disregarded so easily or relationships you know um and that focus on you know everyone needs to be good enough for me and what I'm doing otherwise they're not going to be in my life rather than looking at what are you bringing to that friendship but are you also being a good friend in return or

oh um that if someone isn't meeting your expectations just ditch them you know that kind of yeah if your friend doesn't support you in what you're doing get rid of them as if they're you know as if friendship is something to be kind of disregarded so easily or relationships you know um and that focus on you know everyone needs to be good enough for me and what I'm doing otherwise they're not going to be in my life rather than looking at what are you bringing to that friendship but are you also being a good friend in return or

oh um that if someone isn't meeting your expectations just ditch them you know that kind of yeah if your friend doesn't support you in what you're doing get rid of them as if they're you know as if friendship is something to be kind of disregarded so easily or relationships you know um and that focus on you know everyone needs to be good enough for me and what I'm doing otherwise they're not going to be in my life rather than looking at what are you bringing to that friendship but are you also being a good friend in return or

um or sometimes someone is um saying something you don't want to hear um but it might be what you need to hear yeah you know um so yeah probably that kind of stuff i think the kind of disregarding relationships too quickly and too easily that kind of seems like an ego thing yeah yeah like oh they're not making money but yeah boo on them yeah true or false you can't be a good partner if you're not working on yourself

um or sometimes someone is um saying something you don't want to hear um but it might be what you need to hear yeah you know um so yeah probably that kind of stuff i think the kind of disregarding relationships too quickly and too easily that kind of seems like an ego thing yeah yeah like oh they're not making money but yeah boo on them yeah true or false you can't be a good partner if you're not working on yourself

um or sometimes someone is um saying something you don't want to hear um but it might be what you need to hear yeah you know um so yeah probably that kind of stuff i think the kind of disregarding relationships too quickly and too easily that kind of seems like an ego thing yeah yeah like oh they're not making money but yeah boo on them yeah true or false you can't be a good partner if you're not working on yourself

I would say false because, you know, there's this, again, it's online, isn't it? This idea that you must be healed in order to, you know, be a good partner and be in a relationship, you know, heal yourself before you look for a relationship. And it's like... I think if everybody followed that rule, if you had to be fully healed and they had to be fully healed, you would never meet anyone.