Dr. Julie Smith

Yeah. God. And actually, you know, you look online about some of these sort of apparently ideal ways to repair an argument or those kind of things. Actually, for us... Probably a lot of the time, we just use humor and we know each other so well now that we can kind of go, oh, you're doing that thing again. And then we both have a laugh about it and then we're back in.

Yeah. God. And actually, you know, you look online about some of these sort of apparently ideal ways to repair an argument or those kind of things. Actually, for us... Probably a lot of the time, we just use humor and we know each other so well now that we can kind of go, oh, you're doing that thing again. And then we both have a laugh about it and then we're back in.

Yeah. God. And actually, you know, you look online about some of these sort of apparently ideal ways to repair an argument or those kind of things. Actually, for us... Probably a lot of the time, we just use humor and we know each other so well now that we can kind of go, oh, you're doing that thing again. And then we both have a laugh about it and then we're back in.

And it's okay for it to be that way. We don't all have to be therapists to have what could be an ideal relationship.

And it's okay for it to be that way. We don't all have to be therapists to have what could be an ideal relationship.

And it's okay for it to be that way. We don't all have to be therapists to have what could be an ideal relationship.

I think probably one of the first bits is the idea that anxiety isn't something that's wrong in your brain. It's not a problem that is a fault of yours. It's not something that's wrong with you. It's an experience. And often what happens in therapy is this process of someone kind of says, you know, I'm feeling this or this is coming up for me. And then what follows is a judgment

I think probably one of the first bits is the idea that anxiety isn't something that's wrong in your brain. It's not a problem that is a fault of yours. It's not something that's wrong with you. It's an experience. And often what happens in therapy is this process of someone kind of says, you know, I'm feeling this or this is coming up for me. And then what follows is a judgment

I think probably one of the first bits is the idea that anxiety isn't something that's wrong in your brain. It's not a problem that is a fault of yours. It's not something that's wrong with you. It's an experience. And often what happens in therapy is this process of someone kind of says, you know, I'm feeling this or this is coming up for me. And then what follows is a judgment

You know, that means I'm weak or I'm not coping and everyone else can do this. And what we do is we kind of go, okay, notice that judgment. Notice how you just judged yourself, how you're feeling right now. Or, you know, comparing, apparently everyone else has it together, then no one else feels this way. And let's just drop the judgment and turn back to that feeling with curiosity.

You know, that means I'm weak or I'm not coping and everyone else can do this. And what we do is we kind of go, okay, notice that judgment. Notice how you just judged yourself, how you're feeling right now. Or, you know, comparing, apparently everyone else has it together, then no one else feels this way. And let's just drop the judgment and turn back to that feeling with curiosity.

You know, that means I'm weak or I'm not coping and everyone else can do this. And what we do is we kind of go, okay, notice that judgment. Notice how you just judged yourself, how you're feeling right now. Or, you know, comparing, apparently everyone else has it together, then no one else feels this way. And let's just drop the judgment and turn back to that feeling with curiosity.

Isn't that interesting that you feel that way? What's going on that makes you vulnerable to that feeling at this point? Let's say, I don't know, a new mom, for example, who finds themselves totally isolated, has no idea what to do and how best to look after this baby. And, you know, husband's gone back to work. And the anxiety is just huge.

Isn't that interesting that you feel that way? What's going on that makes you vulnerable to that feeling at this point? Let's say, I don't know, a new mom, for example, who finds themselves totally isolated, has no idea what to do and how best to look after this baby. And, you know, husband's gone back to work. And the anxiety is just huge.

Isn't that interesting that you feel that way? What's going on that makes you vulnerable to that feeling at this point? Let's say, I don't know, a new mom, for example, who finds themselves totally isolated, has no idea what to do and how best to look after this baby. And, you know, husband's gone back to work. And the anxiety is just huge.

And I remember thinking when I first had a baby, I don't know if I can handle this degree of fear about how am I going to get it right for this little human being forevermore? I don't know if I can deal with... And a lot of it is this idea that if you turn towards that feeling with curiosity... you can hear what it has to say.

And I remember thinking when I first had a baby, I don't know if I can handle this degree of fear about how am I going to get it right for this little human being forevermore? I don't know if I can deal with... And a lot of it is this idea that if you turn towards that feeling with curiosity... you can hear what it has to say.

And I remember thinking when I first had a baby, I don't know if I can handle this degree of fear about how am I going to get it right for this little human being forevermore? I don't know if I can deal with... And a lot of it is this idea that if you turn towards that feeling with curiosity... you can hear what it has to say.

And often, it has something to tell you about what you need at the time. And so, for example, in that kind of new mom scenario, usually, that's around, I need human connection. I need some reassurance. I need adult conversation, or I need to feel safe in this situation. And And so the answers start to appear when you're just willing to look at the emotion and ask, what are you telling me?

And often, it has something to tell you about what you need at the time. And so, for example, in that kind of new mom scenario, usually, that's around, I need human connection. I need some reassurance. I need adult conversation, or I need to feel safe in this situation. And And so the answers start to appear when you're just willing to look at the emotion and ask, what are you telling me?